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Sad day for family, but also for dog left behind.

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Cherrytree59 Mon 28-Dec-20 15:45:26

My sisters beautiful springer
spaniel died today, after having been on palliative care since September.

All the family including my grandsons are devistated.
She had been a major part of our small family.
She was also big 'sister' to my sisters other springer.

So would be glad of any words of wisdom as to how my sister (and us) can make life a little easier for the dog left behind.
The dogs went everywhere together..
Unlike our furry friend we have had time to prepare ourselves for this sad day.

My sister went with her dog to the vets and held in the back of the car, whilst she was injected and waited until she fell asleep in her arms.

We have buried her dog in our garden with beloved ball. (Sister in process of moving)

But it means that she left with her dog and now has returned home without her.sad

When the older dog could no longer wash herself, the younger dog would wash her sister's face and clean around her eyes.
In her own way she knew something was not quite right.
But even so she must be a very bewildered and confused dog .sad

Advice please

MawBe Mon 28-Dec-20 15:48:57

No advice - but much sympathy flowers

BlueBelle Mon 28-Dec-20 15:52:42

My friend has just had to have her dog euthanised leaving it’s 13 year companion behind It’s sad isn’t it as you can’t explain
I remember when my cat was killed on the road just outside my house it dragged itself to the path and I sat on the pavement and held it and my other cat wouldn’t go near that spot she avoided it walking right round it and used to wander round the house looking for her friend
So sad isn’t it

Ellianne Mon 28-Dec-20 15:59:36

It took our dog a good few months to get over the loss of his companion. He just used to stand around lost in the house but was better outside going for walks. I guess it's just a case of taking their minds off it.
Sorry.

Cherrytree59 Mon 28-Dec-20 16:10:14

Thank you all for taking the time to post .

Just feeling a bit helpless

Time I suppose is all we can give both my sister and her little springer and of course lots of love, especially from two little boyssmile

Jane10 Mon 28-Dec-20 16:11:45

Oh the poor wee thing. Love doesn't just hurt humans. I'm sure the whole family is being kind to the doggie as well as each other.

NfkDumpling Mon 28-Dec-20 16:17:49

Lots of love and cuddles. My DD1 lost her old dog early last summer. They felt sure their younger dog knew the old boy was going to soon leave them and, although he mooched around like a lost soul for a few days, he accepted the new situation quicker that his humans did. I think he now enjoys being an only dog - although that could change next summer!

NfkDumpling Mon 28-Dec-20 16:19:14

I should have added that DD1's dogs were spaniels. They do bounce back from most things quite quickly - especially springers.

sodapop Mon 28-Dec-20 16:20:40

So sorry to hear about your Springer Cherrytree it's such a sad time, I know how you feel as we lost our JR in October. We still have two other dogs so they have each other, they still look for the JR at meal times as the order of feeding has changed. I'm sure with a little extra love and attention your remaining dog will still have a happy life.

Kalu Mon 28-Dec-20 16:28:33

We have been in this situation when the eldest companion has died. I have always given extra cuddles and more of my attention until I noticed a change for the better in whatever dog was left behind, they are still part of the family.

It really is a heartbreaking situation for the whole family. It does take a while to stop looking for the dog, expecting it always to be in its favourite spots. Support and understanding helps to finally face the reality.

So sorry you are going through this.

FannyCornforth Mon 28-Dec-20 16:45:49

Aah. You've brought tears to my eyes.
Dogs are such wonderful friends thanks

Sparklefizz Mon 28-Dec-20 16:47:54

So sorry to hear this. flowers

The remaining dog will grieve and this may take a long time. As much extra love and attention as possible will help, but when my cat's brother was run over, she spent days frantically looking for him and meowing non stop, especially at bedtime. They had always cuddled up together. She wouldn't settle without him and became very clingy with me. I was very upset myself and was worried she was picking up on my own sadness.

She stopped eating and eventually had to be given pills to stimulate her appetite, and was diagnosed with depression and prescribed treatment for that.

I spent a lot of time cuddling her and talking to her, but it took more than a year for her to stop gazing out of the window looking for him.

So I would say to be prepared for all, or any, of this behaviour.

nanny2507 Mon 28-Dec-20 17:17:35

heartbreaking. I have been here both from having a sick dog put down and having a pedigree cat stolen. I have no words for the pain you must all be feeling xxxx

Smileless2012 Mon 28-Dec-20 17:28:20

It can help if there's something with your sister's springer spaniel's scent on it and as has already been suggested lots of love and cuddles.

Shandy57 Mon 28-Dec-20 17:29:30

So very sorry to read this. Obviously not the same but our dog pined when my husband died, and I was so worried about him I rang the breeder for advice. She said the only 'cure' for grief was extra love and attention.

Cherrytree59 Tue 29-Dec-20 13:33:30

Thank you all 💜
A difficult day yesterday.
Just wanted to somehow make it better for the poor dog left behind.
But you are all right, lots of love and attention, whilst giving her time to grieve.
She woke up a few times during the night crying out. My sister cuddled her until she eventually settled and slept until 8am.
Some scrambled eggs for breakfast and then a walk.

Thank you all again smile

grandtanteJE65 Tue 29-Dec-20 14:13:11

Make a fuss of the dog for the next while.

Dogs grieve for a while, just like us, and just like us the grief lessens in time.

Our one cat died three years ago and for nine weeks the other refused to leave our garden, unless he was on his lead and with me and sniffed the bathroom floor where his brother had died daily,

Nine weeks after his brother's death he started mousing again, but still occasionally sniffed the bathroom floor that had been washed many times or went into the cupboard where his brother used to sneak a rest.

Gradually, he stopped and has now made friends with a neighbour's cat and is apparently teaching the youngster to catch rats!.

Perhaps your sister could find a friend with a dog that her own dog could walk and play with.

moggie57 Mon 04-Jan-21 16:27:52

Lots of strokes cuddles hugs .more attention to the dog that is still alive.a cuddly toy.

moggie57 Mon 04-Jan-21 16:29:11

Find a friend who has a dog To go walkies with