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Newly adopted dog - scared of us

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Iam64 Fri 16-Feb-24 15:54:31

A word of support for GSM ‘s recommendation on routine. All dogs feel more secure with good routines and rescues really need them x

Grandmabatty Fri 16-Feb-24 15:47:57

I follow Rory cellan Jones on twitter and his journey with his rescue dog. It might be worth looking at what he and his wife do.

Germanshepherdsmum Fri 16-Feb-24 15:47:26

I wish you many years of happiness together. She will learn to trust in her own time with a calm and loving routine. For rescues, routine is security.

ExDancer Fri 16-Feb-24 15:36:40

Sorry that didn't scan - try

www.petforums.co.uk/search/609162/?q=dog+forums&o=relevance

ExDancer Fri 16-Feb-24 15:33:38

I got a lot of good advice from

ttps://www.petforums.co.uk/forums

especially regarding advice to be careful not to stare into the dog's eyes as they perceive this as aggressive, so a timid dog will be afraid.
Ask visitors not to do this - a lot of people seem to imagine that holding out a hand and making eye contact is a good strategy, but its not. In fact the 'hand of friendship' could well receive a sharp nip in return.
Food is a good sign of friendship (without eye contact - difficult I know, but worth the effort).

MayBee70 Fri 16-Feb-24 15:17:16

Well that’s a breed that’s new to me so I looked it up. It’s most notable trait is having endless stamina and endurance so I assume it’s a dog that needs a lot of exercise? A friend of mine has just taken on an ex puppy farm dog and although she has bonded with my friend she’s still wary of her husband. Would the refuge know of how she was living with her previous owner: what routines she followed etc?

Iam64 Fri 16-Feb-24 15:16:50

Good advice from Syracute. T
I was always advised 3 months before my fosters or rescues could feel secure enough to be able to begin to trust and show their personality.
She sounds like a girl who needs space and quiet. There is good advice on line x

Syracute Fri 16-Feb-24 15:08:51

She needs time . Ignore her a bit . Remember not to look or stare at her at first . Maybe , a high value treat once in a while . It takes literally months for some dogs and at the very least a few weeks . Maybe a harness would be good to start off to clip from the top .

Knitandnatter Fri 16-Feb-24 15:06:08

Just keep doing what you're doing - be patient with her and talk to her, I am sure she will get used to you. It sounds as though she has had a poor start in life and her second owner had to give her up through no fault of her own.

V3ra Fri 16-Feb-24 15:05:17

I agree. Keep calm, keep to a gentle routine with her and she'll gradually learn to trust you and understand that she has a loving home ❤️

kareneades Fri 16-Feb-24 15:01:56

I would do exactly as you’re doing. Let her come to you when she’s ready. The fact that she’s following you is a good sign. Poor wee thing, she must be very sad and confused. She is very lucky to have found you to care for her.

Dinahmo Fri 16-Feb-24 14:58:19

My lovely Ruby was put to sleep just after Christmas because the cancer finally got her. Ronnie, our other blind dog was adopted 3 to 4 years ago and fitted in well with us. Sadly he got out - a gate although closed was not properly latched. We hunted every where, leafleted and put up posters but very sadly he was killed on a road the other side of our village.

I'm one of those people who needs a distraction when a pet dog dies and I was looking for a new companion for Ronnie.
I had found one, a 7 year old Griffon Vendeen, in a refuge. We decided that we would adopt her and collected her on Tuesday. Apparently she had been badly treated and was wary of men. Last year she was adopted by a young woman who had been doing well with her but sadly, her new owner is now in hospital with cancer and so Zelie was up for rehoming again.

Previous dogs that we've adopted have got used to us very quickly but Zelie is wary of us and we cannot get close to her.
We only managed to get a lead on her yesterday. We have left it on so that we don't have the same problem again.

Perhaps it's because we don't have another dog in the house?

I know that we should not force our attention or affection on to her but wait until she comes to us. If we leave the living room she will follow from a distance.

So any ideas of what to do next?