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Badgers and wedding anniversary presents

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Stansgran Sun 12-May-24 13:52:33

DH is a very kind and generous man. His only faults are. A permanent longing to be on holiday somewhere other than here and the state of the garden. The garden rambles and is open to all sorts of wildlife and as new neighbours seem to have covered their garden with concrete the badgers have decided we are a good foraging area. We have a garden camera and DH is enraged at what he sees every morning. Imo the deer just wander through and the rabbits have the odd spot for siflay but the badgers! When we first came here 40 years ago we used to have badger watching parties for friends and their children. I felt then and still do feel privileged. Foxes came and went and badgers and deer all seemed to live in harmony. DH spends a fortune on treatments for the lawn. I don’t care either way. I like the moss( 37 bags removed a few weeks ago) . our umpteenth wedding anniversary is looming. Nothing with a nought on the end. I’ve ordered citronella pellets and those pellets with lion dung . Quite expensive but inappropriate for an anniversary present or not? ( he’s bought me a very expensive brooch in bronze from an Icelandic sculpture I know cos he asked me for my opinion) I usually buy him something for the garden . Please help I’m in two minds.

eazybee Sun 12-May-24 14:21:03

How about a fence so he can keep part of the garden pristine, and the wildlife can use the other part.

NotSpaghetti Sun 12-May-24 14:28:51

What a lovely post.
I wish you years of happy badger watching and moss-collecting!
😍

Callistemon21 Sun 12-May-24 14:53:08

eazybee

How about a fence so he can keep part of the garden pristine, and the wildlife can use the other part.

The problem with badgers is that they burrow, get under anything and cause a lot of damage.

Plants that badgers dislike are lavender, rosemary. Very strong chillies too.
You could buy him a selection and take photos of him planting them for the anniversary album 😀

Oreo Sun 12-May-24 18:33:16

Is this a joke post?
He buys you an expensive brooch and you get him pellets?

Sparklefizz Sun 12-May-24 19:20:52

... and not only "pellets" but lion poo pellets smile smile

denbylover Sun 12-May-24 19:30:34

We are so different in what kind of gift floats our boat. You know yr husband Stansgran, if pellets, in fact anything for the garden is what he’d like, I say go ahead. Expense doesn’t come in to it, it’s what gives pleasure is much more important. Happy Anniversary!

Callistemon21 Sun 12-May-24 19:30:55

Oreo

Is this a joke post?
He buys you an expensive brooch and you get him pellets?

But it's what he'd like!!
🦁

SuzieHi Sun 12-May-24 19:40:45

I’d book a surprise holiday for the two of you - couple of days or longer? Give him the gardening stuff as well.
Amsterdam- Eurostar good, or Rome in the Soring- lovely

Callistemon21 Sun 12-May-24 19:49:45

SuzieHi

I’d book a surprise holiday for the two of you - couple of days or longer? Give him the gardening stuff as well.
Amsterdam- Eurostar good, or Rome in the Soring- lovely

Yes, a trip somewhere.

And something for the garden too.

flappergirl Sun 12-May-24 19:55:13

Happy anniversary Stansgran. Personally I'd invest in husband pellets and keep the badgers or send him off on an extended cruise.

Like you we have badgers, deer and foxes in our garden and I never get tired of watching them from my kitchen window. We had seven baby badgers once snuffling along our garden wall. It's such a privilege.

Stansgran Sun 12-May-24 20:45:28

Thank you all for the advice. We are doing two of his bucket list destinations in July and I always find something for the garden. Last year it was a new swing.@denbylover i think I’ll go ahead as I doubt the wildlife will keep away. My friend thought their garden was deer proof fenced but has just found one,sadly dead on her lawn. @Oreo certainly not a joke and you can’t buy anything in Iceland 🇮🇸 that isn’t expensive as far as I could see.

Oldnproud Sun 12-May-24 21:12:51

How is his sense of humour? If it is good, I'd go with the pellets, but throw in a membership to your local/ regional badger group too 😁

Just as an aside - the few occasions when badgers have been a problem in my garden have arisen very shortly after I have applied moss killer and then raked out the dead stuff. I suspect that something in that process might have produced a scent that was irresistible to them! Or maybe just strengthened the smell of the moss, and every badger knows that beneath a bed of moss there is a delicious meal of slugs, grubs and other delicacies awaiting them.

Doodledog Sun 12-May-24 21:50:33

If the pellets are something he wouldn't buy himself, then IMO they are present-worthy. From the sound of your post you'll both have everything you need, and looking for things to buy is unnecessary (again IMO). I think a present should be a treat - either something the recipient thinks is too extravagant to buy (it doesn't matter whether it is a fancy car or a bar of luxury chocolate) or an upgraded version of something they usually get for themselves. Either way, the best presents are not generic anythings, but gifts bought with love and thought.

I would never think to get anyone lion pellets, but I've never met anyone who would want them😂. I think they would make a much better gift than a jumper or shirt to live in his wardrobe - particularly so as this is an anniversary and it will show that you know him better than anyone else.

Have a lovely day, and I'd love to see your brooch if sharing a photo wouldn't be too 'outing'.

NotSpaghetti Sun 12-May-24 23:50:04

SuzieHi

I’d book a surprise holiday for the two of you - couple of days or longer? Give him the gardening stuff as well.
Amsterdam- Eurostar good, or Rome in the Soring- lovely

Oh lord NO!
Not a ^surprise holiday!!!

That would make me as fed up and cross as a surprise party!

NotSpaghetti Sun 12-May-24 23:55:43

BTW, my daughter bought elephant poo from the zoo for father's day one year. They has stopped selling tiger poo (which he wanted to keep cats out) for H&S reasons and she didn't want to come away "empty handed" grin

I'd go with poo pellets (and will now go away to Google them).

I expect he will get a great deal of joy from your gift anyway.

grandtanteJE65 Sun 19-May-24 13:53:48

Congratulations! Buy the good man something he will enjoy, even if it is slug pellets!

Presents IMO should delight the recipient.

As it is your umpteenth anniversary, you must know buy now what he would like - get him that. My husband adored mechanical toys and the toy monkey he was given when he was four, so one Christmas I made said monkey a black cloth cap - probably the best present I ever gave my DH.

JaneJudge Sun 19-May-24 13:59:14

You could always buy him something badger related, like a Brian May poster

Stansgran Sun 19-May-24 14:47:13

An update- we have put the garden camera out (another anniversary present from me) and the badgers are digging like mad. We have thought of feeding them generously so we’ve bought faggots from the local butcher (60p each!) and hoped that would suit them sufficiently and they would leave the worms to aerate the lawn. Don’t like to mention the problem locally as there are still people who badger bait around. I have bought the pellets but will wait a while. When you’ve been married since 1969 you can run out of ideas.

flappergirl Sun 19-May-24 20:58:55

So glad to hear you're not discouraging the badgers. They should be very pleased with the faggots. As an occasional treat they also love peanut butter and honey spread thinly on bread.