Why does my cat not like me?

Buy the cat some Dreamies and she might come round

Cats see direct eye contact as aggression and will go to the person who ignores them. Try the ‘what cat?’ method and you may find things improve.

Cats generally prefer to be solitary.

My husband and I have had several cats over the past 44 years. Most were "my"cats as I did all the feeding, litter tray, and vet visits. Our previous cat was feral and took to my husband quite quickly - in fact, it was 2 years before he sat on my knee. The current cat has been here for 14 months. He had been a stray. Whenever my husband moved, the cat used to dash to the door to escape. He now occasionally sits next to my husband. Slowly, but surely, your cat will trust you.

I wouldn't get another cat - your present cat may not like that, then you'd end up with 2 unhappy ones. Cats generally prefer to be.

They make their choices and she may be a one person cat.

You should try ignoring her and then one day you'll find her on your lap. Contrary little creatures. Love them all.

They have their little likes and dislikes and sometimes it's not clear why.

The one thing I miss about the horrible last lot of neighbours I had here is one of their cats. They had two and I treated them both the same when they came "visiting" in my garden. That led to the pair of them being frequent visitors and, with one of them, it was very much on her terms what was what and she was basically a bit antisocial to me.

The other one though would often appear - winding her way round my legs, waiting for me to walk back to my home after going out and "ask" me if I'd comb her (they were long-haired cats and I don't think they ever were combed - but she clearly loved it). So we'd have a little "beauty salon" session and, when she thought she'd had enough she'd then have a little "sit and watch the scenery" session in my porch until she decided to let herself back out again.

Both cats were trying their best to move in with me - but the "beauty salon" one definitely liked me - whilst the other one was more "take it or leave it" attitude. They've defo got their own little personalities.

We had a cat when I was a child who ignored everyone in the family except my father. This was strange because he worked long hours, was not around very much and didn't put the food out for her meals.

She used to wait by the front door for him to come in and he would pick her up and cuddle her. With the rest of us she would struggle if we picked her up and if we put her on our laps she jumped off immediately.

As Allira says cats are contrary creatures.

Ask the cat.

Chat not cant.

Get a second cat, ArthurMann.

Go to the cats rescue and don't take them straightaway, make a bond. You'll know rapidly if a cat there takes to you, they will show it. Establish a treats regime as you visit. Cant to the cat, tell them All (winky wotsit)

Then both of you can enjoy a cat on the lap when the TV is on ☺️

The other thing we do is to keep her to the same routine each day, so she gets the same words spoken to her in the morning and fed at the same time, and throughout the day her routine remains the same - out in the garden, back in to snooze etc.
We let her dictate her day and she seems very happy knowing what to expect etc.

My brother and SIL had a cat many years ago. It wouldn't let anyone fuss it or get near it!

When SIL went to Hospital to give birth, my children and I went to the house first so we could go with brother to visit the new born.

The cat was all over us, wanting to be fussed etc. It is as if she knew something different had happened and competition was coming?

Our cat loves both of us and is very affectionate. Our previous cat only had eyes for me!! 🤣. My DH tried so hard but she just ignored him . There was no reason at all for her to dislike him - she just did! Keep persevering, she may surprise you one day! Good luck.

My little female is a stray, and she has I think been harmed by men during her lonely life. She is frightened of my husband (although patience, gentleness, quiet and no sudden movement is helping) and she is particularly frightened of legs and anything resembling a stick.

But she has over the past 9 months put all her trust into me and gradually getting much more confident, but it is a long job.
It does seem onerous, but we try as far as possible to keep everything in the house exactly the same as she gets really jittery and frightened if things change or are different and will end up in her safe place - under a bed.

Ever onwards!

Ignore her.
She might try to get round you then by being friendly.

Cats are contrary creatures, they make a beeline for those people who aren't so keen on them!

Some cats are just one person cats. We had one who loved me but wouldn't go near DH. Equally we had one that loved DH and DS but wasn't bothered about me. Cats!

You don’t smell right.

I don’t mean that you smell but that it’s not right for her.