what's the worst personal comment you have received from a person ?

Years ago I was told that if I stood sideways and put my tongue out I would look like a zip

It's really important to report it and then, if it happens again the offence can be proved. Harassment has to be 'a course of actions' ie more than once, so it's really important not to let it go. Although the police may not be very visible, they are duty bound to log complaints and will respond if it's persistent. If you get no joy go to the CAB who will advise you.

By the way, he`s not a young man, he`s retired, looks like late 60s.

Yes, I did back down in a way, because I took my grandson into the house away from him. Hubby came in a few minutes later, said he`d told him to learn to talk more civilised to people. My son has since contacted the landlord who`s had the house on their books for the last few years, we weren`t sure if he was renting or if he`d bought it. He is a tenant, so my son told them what had happened, said he didn`t want language like that in front of his son, and they said that it was up to me whether to make a complaint to them or not. I`ve decided, probably stupidly, to let it go, but if there`s another incident, ther`ll definitely be a complaint to the landlord, and to the council. Police? They`re practically non existent around here!

You should also log it with your local council!

That's right, of course! Whenever you have a concern like that, you should phone the police, numberplease. The more they are aware of, the more they'll be able to do. Do you have a Community Policeman that goes around the area? We have one in our village. We go to the Community Police meetings every two months and they give us an update on issues that have previously arisen. They always tell us to report ANYTHING that we have a concern about. They may not need to come to the house but the call will be logged at the police station and notice will be taken of it, in case anything else arises.
You shouldn't have to put up with 'threatening behaviour', which is what this was.

You need to keep a record of when he has done this and what he has said, reporting also whether it made you feel afraid or concerned for anyone's safety. Police will gladly call and speak to him about his behaviour. They will usually keep notes and assure him it will be logged and dealt with should it occur again.

Number please I think that is a public order offence. I'd report him to the police.

The B.....d, numberplease! What a horror. What was the outcome? I hope you didn't back down?

Well, I posted on here on Nov 3rd, but since then I`ve had another nasty comment. We have a rather nasty, awkward new neighbour, who in the last 6 months since he moved in has been really unpleasant. The other day he started an argument out in the street with my husband, he was effing and blinding, called my husband some awful names, and as we had our 3 year old grandson with us I asked him to tone it down in front of a little kiddie. The answer was, at the top of his voice, "Shut up, you stupid old cow!!!"

I've lost count of the number of stupid people who comment on my (lack of) height.
I once got so angry that I responded by commenting on the woman's huge bust and she accused me of being insensitive!

A friend came round to see me when I came home after my hip replacement. She hadn't met my sister (5 years my junior) before and greeted her: 'Oh you must be A's daughter.' I was never sure if that meant that my sister was looking unusually young or I (after all I was only a few days post-operative) was looking even older than usual.

Blimey Jams stick around here and perhaps we can pay you some compliments to balance out those you've described. By the way, cows have the most beautiful eyes, especially Jerseys

From my mother;
"You've such a pretty face, shame about the weight!!"
"You walk like a farmer!!"
"You can't have possibly passed your exams with such high marks, they've obviously mixed you up with someone else!!"
On being allocated my place at comp (segregated according to ability in those days) "They've got you in the wrong group, you shouldn't be in the A group when your sister is in B level - I'm going in to school tomorrow to sort it out" (and she did. BTW I stayed in the A group all the way through school whilst my sister dropped into the D level - shouldn't be smug, but I was lol)

From my Grandson (as he woke me up early in a morning);
"Grandma, I love you loads, but you don't half have stinky breath!!"

From hubby (the night I met him);
"You have the most gorgeous cow eyes!!"

And Hubby a few weeks into our relationship (and yes I married him, been together 30 years now lol);
"You are not pretty and you're not beautiful, but you are good looking when you're dressed up"

From someone I thought was a friend when her other friends were acting oddly towards me;
"Oh I've told everyone that you are my mother!!" (her mother had some serious mental health issues and abused my 'friend' when she was a child)

Love it, Swizzle!

My daughter was once asked by a boyfriend's parents: "Are you new money or old money?"

Very sensibly (and correctly) she said: "No money."

From Mum:-
You're neither use nor ornament.
You look like a dying duck in a thunder storm.
Look at you - you're a magnet for muck.
You look like you've been dragged through a hedge, backwards.
(after telling her I was to be a fairy in a Sunday School concert) Fairy elephant more like.
(after hearing me sing) You can sing if you like - as long as you do the vacuuming at the same time.

From PE mistress:
You are the most uncoordinated creature I have ever had the misfortune to try to teach.

From biology mistress:
You're an unsatisfactory specimen.

From husband:
You're an accident waiting to happen.

I should point out I'm from Yorkshire - they say what they think, there, no matter what.

Here in Australia people often say nice things to me. But do they mean them?????

When I was 15 I did well in an exam and went home delighted and pleased. I told my paternal grandmother who looked at me and said 'Your trumpeter will not die of overwork' and crushed me completely.

I recently took my 18 month old Grandaughter to a local playground and was aware that a child of about 8years old on a climbing frame was observing me. She asked me if I was the little ones mother but before I could reply to her, she informed this 62 year old that I was 'very pretty but very old '!!

As soon as I started to earn money my father told me to save up for plastic surgery to have my nose shortened. I didn't but forever after saw a large nose every time I looked in the mirror ( a bit like an anorexic seeing a fat body)

Some 40 years later a girl I worked with told me she wished she had a small nose like mine! The damage parents do by unkind remarks can last a lifetime - my children are all truly beautiful and have always been told so.

Gadabout That sounds just like my Mum. Its always fatal for anyone to ask her 'How do I look?' The answer is always 'Who do you think's looking at you?!'

Congratulations on your PhD GadaboutGran. It truly does take years of slog, and to have that recognised in the ceremony must have been a very proud moment for you

I got my PhD two years before my bus pass - it took me 8 years of hard slog, especially having to get my head round new technology as it was developing. Fearing rude comments from mother and jealousy from older sister, I kept it quiet until I'd finished. Against my better judgment, I invited my mother to the degree ceremony. Her only comment when I arrived all begowned was "Your hair looks awful". I had been rather blase about the ceremony but absolutely loved it as there were only women getting PhDs and we led the procession out of the central double doors of Bath Abbey to be greeted by camera snapping tourists. I was putback in my place on the way home when the car broke down & we waited to be rescued in a ditch by the M4 for an hour - but it was warm and sunny & being in a ditch I could have a wee & nothing could spoil my day.

The night I met my husband, it was at a local dance hall, and I was there with a group of girls from work. He asked me out for the following night, and in the morning, at work, one of the girls, who really loved herself, asked me about him, and when I said I was going out with him that night, she said, "Really? I don`t know what he sees in you!"

Great,*glamma*, keep on the soap box, I love it.The Snooty one is no longer with us, and since she has gone(died), her husband has become a dear sweet old boy,willing to chat to everyone.