what's the worst personal comment you have received from a person ?

I was at a wedding, wearing a rather nice top, which someone admired. When I told her it was from M&S, she replied "yes, they are so useful for everyday clothes"

This was at a period in my life when M&S was quite expensive compared to my normal clothes buying.

The bitchiest things that have ever been said to me (at me, I should perhaps say) were said, I'm ashamed to say, by my mother. I don't recall any nasty comments from other people at all. If there ever were any, they either went over my head at the time or I've forgotten them since.

shysal I'm sure you're not, and even if you are there's nothing wrong in being shy so long as it doesn't render you speechless! I used to be very shy but when I got to my early twenties I suddenly had a 're-birth' and became very stroppy and loud - perhaps I should have remained shy (by the way I am a Sal too!)

You're not nothing on here, shysal, so you can't ever have been nothing anywhere else. Comments like that are born out of meanness and a lack of self-respect in the person who says them — more about their inadequacy than that of the people they hurt. Chuck that hurt away! It belongs to some meany from long ago. Hugs.

A very outgoing annoying work colleague scornfully told me I was 'a nothing', just because I am shy. This happened at least 40 years ago, but it still hurts, probably because it may be true !!

You look just like your mother did at you age - but not as pretty! Said by a great aunt!

So romantic, Joan! One boyfriend introduced me as: 'she comes from Ayrshire where the cows come from'.

When my little sister was about 2 and I was 9, someone commented that my sister was very pretty. Then she went on the say "They're not a bit alike, are they".

On a YHA holiday in Carinthia, a lad said "You've got beautiful big brown eyes - just like a Jersey cow". I was most upset, but he promised to prove it was a compliment, and after the holiday he drove up to Yorkshire and drove me down to the Cotswolds where he lived, and showed e a Jersey cow to prove it was a compliment!

When my DD was born my now XMIL asked me how two such ugly ---s could have produced such a beautiful child.Hence she did not remain my MIL for very long as her son was of the same miserable disposition.

thanks Gally....

7 weeks after my first daughter was born I was at a party and was asked when the baby was due.
Lynne - use the lower case bracket [ at each end ] and write the word smile/grin/wink or whatever in between them and the smiley should magically appear once you post themessage. It took me a long time to find out how to do it until Jess kindly put me out of my misery!

Not a personal comment per se, but when I go to the cinema, theatre etc the [oh so young] person selling the tickets asks if we are on any 'benefits', meaning are we pensioners. I know they're being helpful but I wince every time it happens because I know it wouldn't have been mentioned a few years ago. It's worse when I've made a [rare] attempt to look good .

wanted to add a supportive smiley to this page....susie I've yet to work out how to do it!

Looking good for your age

I've had rather a lot of emergency surgery all concentrated on much the same area of my body with the result that my rather puckered tum looks like a crumpled map of the London underground. (I'm still quite sensitive about it.) In the days of communal changing rooms, but before the advent of punk, another customer looked carefully at the aforementioned tum and asked, "Are your scars real?"