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I found husband looking at internet porn

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pinkhater Fri 04-May-12 09:53:52

Hello anyone

I desperately need to talk to someone about this but can't think who. For a long time I have known that he searches for stuff, as it came up on a search history (he's not totally computer literate) but last night I walked in on him. I am really p*****d off with him but don't know if I should be !!? A couple of years ago when I suspected, I mentioned it and he dismissed it as innocent. We have never discussed it since. I am swinging between thinking I'm a total prude and feeling angry, as I've always taken a no tolerance view of page 3 and the objectification of women. I don't know whether to laugh or cry !! He's 68 by the way.

soop Mon 13-Aug-12 11:54:20

Jings grin
'Pointless' back at 5.15 hmm

grannyactivist Mon 13-Aug-12 11:45:52

confused Huh?

Annobel Mon 13-Aug-12 10:08:41

Yes- Homes Under the Hammer is no substitute... grin

JO4 Mon 13-Aug-12 09:34:27

Sigh!

The Olympics are definitely over. hmm

lovelopez Mon 13-Aug-12 03:31:12

Im a 35 year old woman & honestly couldn't say how often men do think about sex,to assume it is all the time is merely a stereotype.
Im single,never been marry,no kids,support myself and have had amazing relationships in the past with really good men. That i never settle down with one of them could be because the one for me is still to come into my life.
All that being said my personal experience is that i do think of sex very often,i watched and enjoy friendly or female friendly porn. why not? helps me perfect my own fantasies.

Materials possessions to be gained can be taking away from you in a blink of an eye,is a shallow outlook & not very fulfilling.
The next phone,clothes or jewelry are a waist of precious time and money,within six months they become all obsolete outdated and out of silly fashion.

pompa Fri 18-May-12 18:10:25

It's Mrs. P that wants to know how it will end - you are right, us Guys have to use our time more wisely. ---- Pompa Ducks as a plate flies past his head !

Mishap Thu 17-May-12 21:34:17

Sounds like a waste of life watching that one pompa! The clock is ticking - use it wisely!!

pompa Thu 17-May-12 18:16:29

Some friends of ours gave us a soft porn movie, they said they bought it by mistake ????. It had naked women all over it and mentioned boobs and striptease, so what they thought it was about heaven knows. Purely in the interest of research we started to watch it - hilarious, it's all in Japanese, over acted to the extreme, and the story line is out of the Beano. We could not believe just how bad it was, we have to watch it now, just to see how on earth the story will unfold. The plot is based on a female Japanese warrior, who gains superhuman powers by exposing her breast. Can it get any worse - probably grin

pammygran Thu 17-May-12 17:01:24

Watch it together it can be FUN!

soop Tue 08-May-12 18:26:31

pompa A lovely message from you. Big smile

pompa Tue 08-May-12 18:19:51

Everyone flowers

I am so please to see this thread finishing on a friendly note. All we wanted to do was to re-assure Pinkhater that all would be well eventually, and as my Dad used to say, worse things happen at sea.

Deep down we do love the ladies in our lives.

gramps Tue 08-May-12 18:08:35

Thanx for your support dear Grannies.
It makes such a difference you see,
Now you know a little of what makes us tick,
When we get struck with PD!

I've written many a poem,
With PD often a theme,
But this, as I said, is not the right thread,
So ,I'll go, B4 I make you all SQUEAM!!

harrigran Tue 08-May-12 15:33:19

Mishap flowers and Gramps

glassortwo Tue 08-May-12 13:14:21

mishap flowers

soop Tue 08-May-12 12:29:19

Mishap and Gramps sunshine and [smiles] to brighten your day.

Mishap Tue 08-May-12 09:31:33

Thank you for your kind words ladies - they are appreciated.

gramps is right about the medications - every time they need to be changed or to add in a new one (as now) we keep our fingers crossed as the side effects can be unpleasant to say the least. It is hard to target them accurately - one drug might alleviate some particular symptoms, but not necessarily the one that troubles you most!

Thank you for your advice. You have found positive ways to deal with your PD and that is heartening for us.

I also think it is important to be open about it - to start with, my OH did not even want to tell our children as he knew they would be upset, but I could not tolerate any dishonesty with them and he then agreed. He did not want others outside the family to know to start with, but that became an untenable position, as he was obviously unwell. He eventually changed his mind about this; and one of the upsides of the illness has been the kindness of neighbours and friends - without it we would never have known how they cared. We are surrounded by offers of help on all sides; and some quiet understated support in the form of phone calls when the weather is bad, checking our troublesome drainage system; offering a rota of care for me if I have to go in and have a new hip - we feel buoyed up on a network of lovely people around us. And our children are wonderful.

gramps Tue 08-May-12 00:00:06

There is a lot of research ongoing at present time, using stem cells.
Research takes time as the results have to be verified. It is also very expensive!
New drugs are coming onto the market, but as you may know, we are all individuals - tailor made. what helps one, can poison somebody else with identical symptoms!

It is /is not, heredity based, but on the DNA in your genetic pool.

Mishap, I'm very sorry to hear of spoilt plans for retirement.

The advice I give to PDers is, to stay POSITIVE (not easy, I know)
Accept that you have it. It is then easier to come to terms with it after a (long) while. Some folk cope more easily than others!
Make plans as normal for every day life, but be prepared to modify them as necessary!

Don't isolate yourselves. Easier to explain to friends , I let people know who I have any dealings with!

We all have an inner strength to call on, regardless of faith or none!

nanaej Mon 07-May-12 22:12:12

Mishap & Gramps flowers

I know several people with PD, three of whom have early onset PD. Hopefully researchers will come up with a way to alleviate /cure the disease in the near future.

pompa Mon 07-May-12 21:07:04

My friends boys have developed Parkinson's, one is 29 the other 34, apparently it is rare for it to appear twice in the same family. I just hope that treatments will improve before it gets too advanced for them.

gramps Mon 07-May-12 21:01:01

Dear Ladies,

Re. Parkinson's.
(We could almost start another thread!)

It is very good to have a support group that you can attend,
I can suggest various Forums, but I've already had my knuckles rapped (in a friendly way!) for mis- use of the site. and I don't want to cause probs here.

Mishap,

If you want, and if the Editor is willing, you can contact me privately.

This is the wrong thread for this subject.

Ariadne Mon 07-May-12 20:48:43

Thank you, lovely lady. xx

johanna Mon 07-May-12 20:34:50

Beautiful post mishap

Grannylin Mon 07-May-12 20:28:39

Thank you Mishap. This is not my problem but I find the way you respond to issues very calming and comforting flowers

glassortwo Mon 07-May-12 20:05:22

gramps the physical side of your relationship may have disappeared but you both have the love holding you together, I have a friend who is in her early 50's and has been diagnosed with Parkinson's and she is taking everyday as it comes and said the love of her family is what is pulling her through. flowers

nanachrissy Mon 07-May-12 19:53:13

Mishap I think you are definitely right. Having each other for support, love and companionship is much more important than sex. It must be terribly hard for you but you are together. flowers