Friends that depress you!

I still dont think you really understand it is not a question of just ignoring some thread because of not being interested it is a deliberate move and one of the "bullies" openly spoke to sending the victim to coventry, as as Whenim says also very derogatory comments.

Confidential stuff from another victim was also put on the forum, it is not good.

Of course disagreeing with anothers opinion is not bullying, but being rude and confrontational on a Forum is really as there is no need for it, and if you did not agree then the person responsbile would send you nasty private messages, all very childish really.

probably making this worse by trying to explain, yes my other half would not go on any forums!!!

I think we are in complete agreement Anne, but that kind of ignoring has not, to my knowledge, taken place on Gransnet.
I am interested in why you use your the name of your husband as well as your own if he is not interested in contributing to the forum
I was unsure whether or not you were both posting!

just came up with as a username Great nan, did not use my imagination very much!! no to my knowledge not found anything like that on here so far thank goodness!!

Huge difference between challenging Gransnetters and openly colluding to bully, which I have never experienced on here. If I did, I would complain, but i would not ignore bullying. If things did not improve, as on the other site, i would leave and give my reasons. I enjoy challenging debate, it's stimulating and makes me think.

well said Whenim and I totally agree!!

Whether or not something is actual bullying can be quite subjective, and so much rests on the feelings of the person being 'bullied'. Unlike the Headteacher who says 'there is no bullying at my school' I believe there will always be a degree of bullying in any school, workplace or forum.

What I have found in the short time I've been posting on GN is that the majority of GNetters are very human and supportive. But I do know what you are talking about anneand

I am a new member on this site but I don't think it helps slagging off another site usually there are two sides to a story and it does't help new members like me to stay on this site very dissappointed with this site

Anneandgraham, it has really saddened me to read your posts,it must be obvious to everyone which forum you refer to. I have quoted your views on the said forum for people to read. I can say without doubt you have recieved nothing but support on the said forum everyone has been fair and unbiased. Perhaps you want to go over and name the bullies you say exist on there. And to imply the forum is badly managed well thats very derogratory. Im sure admin will be really pleased to hear this after all the support they have shown you. For all you other ladies on here who I havent yet got to know,please let me just say these are false claims posted by someone who sounds bitter. Everyone on every forum will have different views and opinions on everything in the universe,but if we all agree to disagree without nastiness and rancour then that is a good thing. I am stunned at what I have read posted by Anneandgraham,I sincerely hope she can back up her claims.

Nobody has mentioned another site by name and we are entitled to recount our own experiences.

It is not obvious to me!

well said Great nan !!

Well Anne can go and openly state who these people are then cant she,come on none of us are that naive there are 2 popular granny sites and this is one of them. Anyway from her post I/we know exactly which forum she means.

Hello lovely people I am back.
Thank you all for the comments to me and about me since Thursday. All comment is valuable to help me understand myself.
So.
How far has Greatnan moved her situation since starting the thread on Thursday morning? I think she moved a little, and if we give more love and understanding to her then she in turn may give more of it.

And: the diversion to gillybob seems to have helped her work some things through.
Let us all love and respect ourselves first. How can we help others if we are weak and not lifted by love?

Become robust with caring for yourself, then you will be stronger to help and understand others.

Totally agree Whenim 64 maybe you would care to look at that post Grannygrace

I think grannygrace has posted on here before - but only on this subject. She obviously has an axe to grind, and to pursue someone like this is disgraceful. You have my every sympathy, Anne!

Sorry, grannygrace but I haven't a clue what you're talking about. Surely I can't be the only one who doesn't know (or care) which forum you're referring to.

Thanks Ana and Merlotgran

Okay ladies judge me as you will,but the truth will out.I have no axe to grind with anyone,obviously Im not allowed to have an opinion. I dont stand in judgement on anyone,neither do I give a damn.

greatnan is correct in what she says, "nobody has mentioned another site by name and we are entitled to recount our own experiences."

grannygrace and curlycut it appears you are following anneandgraham onto this site from another. I think you have done this before and it is bullying.

So why not let it go? Both of you. I would not have had the slightest interest in what went on in another forum had the quarrel not been continued onto this one.

On this forum we try not to carry cross words from one thread to another. Carrying it from one forum to another does seem like a continuing vendetta.

Thank you Faye I have reported it to admin lets hope they stay away now.

Thank you all very much for your support.

Thank you for your interest, Daman, I will try very hard to be kinder and more loving.

Oh my goodness. I have just joined the forum tonight and I can't believe this. Please tell me that it isn't always like this, otherwise I will just stick with the telly!

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This is a very strange thread!
I don't like the way it's going either.
Try looking at the midland meet one and you'll get a much better idea of us

I am sorry my thread has been hi-jacked but in this case I am not guilty! However, I am apparently not loving and kind enough - I must try harder.