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Friends that depress you!

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Greatnan Thu 04-Oct-12 11:16:25

I have a friend whom I like very much - she has no gc and is not a member of Gransnet, so I can safely tell you about her. She is very pessimistic and her messages are always full of the awful things that are happening in her life. Every time I suggest something she could do to improve matters, she tells me some reason why it won't work.
I told her my good news about my grandson getting into the Royal Navy yesterday, and her only comment was 'You must be worried, it sounds a very dangerous job'. Actually, I am not worried because I know the RN will train him very well, and he will be doing something he loves and making lots of friends.
I manage to keep very cheerful most days, in spite of my own family problems, and I could do without her continually telling me how rotten life is!
I think some of you might have partners like this - Eeyores - so have you any advice as to the best way to deal with her? She wants to come on a short holiday with me but I am afraid it would not be joyous, like my jaunts with Juragran!

Greatnan Sun 07-Oct-12 13:51:45

I live in splendid isolation most of the time and it doesn't bother me - but I have found myself chatting quite a lot to Juragran's dog and cat, whilst I am house sitting for her!

absentgrana Sun 07-Oct-12 13:52:19

Exactly jeni It's never going to sympathise with your problems.

jeni Sun 07-Oct-12 13:53:44

greatnando they give you sensible answers?

Greatnan Sun 07-Oct-12 13:55:29

Gatsby looks sympathetic and Pudding looks bored. Par for the course. Pudding does sleep on my bed though and I love to hear her purring - such a reassuring sound.

Ella46 Sun 07-Oct-12 13:57:47

That's what's so good about this forum, you can let it all out without getting on anyones nerves.

jeni I talk to myself and answer back when I get out of hand! grin

crimson Sun 07-Oct-12 13:58:02

jeni; I've often thought about having one of those wooden figures that you see in Stately Homes [can't rememeber what they called them; probably 'wooden figures that you see in Statley Homes']. Could have a jolly good converstaion with them I think. Could have a word bubble coming out of it's mouth, the words of which could be changed according to the mood of the day. 'There, there, never mind' or 'ho ho, good joke that'.

celebgran Sun 07-Oct-12 14:04:12

I too hope it has gone away but it was unpleasant and I am very thankful for the support shown to me by Ana, Greatnan and Whenim 64

smile

celebgran Sun 07-Oct-12 14:04:59

sorry if forgot anyone else who kindly supported me!!

whenim64 Sun 07-Oct-12 14:10:58

Ella sometimes the best advice comes from talking to yourself! grin

Ana Sun 07-Oct-12 14:12:02

The hard part is actually taking it! grin

Ella46 Sun 07-Oct-12 14:15:32

I would never take advice from someone like me! grin

whenim64 Sun 07-Oct-12 14:35:15

grin

Stansgran Sun 07-Oct-12 15:09:20

I stayed in Apartments Gutenberg some years back-a bit studenty but cheap and clean and well sited off the Ramblas near the port and a stop for the tourist bus .Wouldn't go down the back alley way tho' on my own at night-

Greatnan Sun 07-Oct-12 15:26:14

Thanks for the suggestion, Stansgran, but a private bathroom is a sine qua non!

absentgrana Sun 07-Oct-12 18:16:58

crimson I think that they are just called companions.

Grannylin Sun 07-Oct-12 18:34:21

Thanks crimson- you've really made me laugh todaygrin

Greatnan Sun 07-Oct-12 18:36:47

Me too - thanks, Crimson!

angiebaby Sun 07-Oct-12 19:09:25

gillybob........you are not alone,,,,,try to go out and do something for you,,,i have had severe depression for a long time,,,i think i am getting better thank heavens, go swimming if you can do your hair...paint your nails, put some make up on,,,,start crafting,,,,,,,im in milton keynes,,,,im sure a lot of us here will meet you for a coffee ....its awfull i know to have a black cloud over your head,,,but there is a light ahead,,,,so be blessed.

crimson Sun 07-Oct-12 20:02:45

Oh jeeeeeez; my spelling blush....

Daman Sun 07-Oct-12 20:07:01

smile

jeni Sun 07-Oct-12 20:27:33

angie I think there are a few of you in MK

Ariadne Sun 07-Oct-12 20:55:34

Well! I usually love our digressions, but have read through some of the pages on this thread, and became very confused at one point! I am glad that the original poster is getting the supportive and helpful response she deserves.
I hope it has helped.

Greatnan Sun 07-Oct-12 21:02:04

Yes, thank you , Ariadne. I have been looking for hotels on line and my friend is also doing some research.

gracesmum Sun 07-Oct-12 21:15:43

stansgran could you or somebody please tell me the relevance of the Apartments Gutenbergreference? I am feeling I have totally lost the plot or something and it bothers me! If I am merely being obcuse, well, no surprise there sad

jeni Sun 07-Oct-12 21:24:47

gracesmdont worry your pretty little head dear!
Just go and lie down with an ice pack and a stiff drink!grin

Actually, it GN wondering what to do with her depressing friend!