Allowing a family member to live in my house whilst we are on holiday.

Agree with Anna's first post!

So sorry Yamyam. I posted my previous message before I got to the bottom of those posted already. I wish you well in whatever decision you come to.

Thank you annsixty, HildaW, and all for your hhelpful comments.
He has apologised so I am climbing down from my high horse to meet him half way. Hilda made a lot of sense and I agree that we should have sorted it out before we married, but you can't envisage every eventuality, can you?
Youngsters who get married get the chance to grow up together, but us old(er) couples are a bit set in our ways, I suppose.
What one wife accepts as normal is not necessarily accepted by no.2 !!

Yamyam so sorry that this has happened

Thanks harrigran for the flowers. I don't really deserve them as I do admit I was being a bit... Is the word intransigent? We have spoken (miracle) and decided to draw a line under this one, and he has learnt how I feel if I am not consulted (sounds a bit pompous) about things like open invitations to our home.

I think DH and maybe some gns missed the point- probably my fault as I was so angry when I posted the thread that i didn't make it clear, it was the bit about not being consulted.

Will go now and stop being boring

I couldn't agree with HildaW more.

Yamyam, I do hope all goes well