How can you improve your relationship?

The one thing I have learned after being married for many years is that you cannot change another person only yourself and how you react to a situation.

When you understand this it makes life so much easier.

I think what BoomerBabe is trying to say is that a physical relationship is very important and if you don't keep at it - so to speak! - things can just fizzle out... Being friends is obviously important too. We've had times where we didn't get naked for some time, and this was in retrospect, a time our relationship that did feel particularly rocky - as a result or cause I don't know...?

Assume life is mainly positive. Never take each other for granted, we all want to feel we matter. 40 years next Feb and still not sure what makes him tick, exciting trying to work it out.

Last week I read an article that said that the three key things for a relationship to work are Lust, Laughter and Loyalty.

Hi mishap,
thanks for your thoughts. I am currently waiting a letter to see the Anesthetist. Hopefully not too long after that before they can see to my back.
I seem to have no enthusiasm for anything lately, I can't stay for long on any of the forums, why I have not been around much.
I hope that your OH feels better soon. There's not a great deal you can do for anybody with PD exactly but be there for them. I feel it's worse for the carer of them than for the" PD patients. It's a bit disconcerting sometimes people say to help you " get well soon"
I've replied that we don't get over this one! So many other folks could say the same thing!

I've not been on Lil's bar lately, but miss them all.
We just have to accept that we have an incurable condition, accept it, and come to terms with it. A most important thing is to stay positive!!

gramps - I am sorry your PD has been playing up - OH too has had problems recently. The slightest hint of a cold or any other bug seems to makes things much worse. I hope that pain relief will be forthcoming for you. It can be very debilitating. Don't give up!

Hunt - you are truly blessed and obviously deserving. Congratulations and may you both enjoy many many more years in each others company.

As a male I would suggest laugh often, love unconditionally, accept faults and freilties and think back to the wonderful times you have had in the past; above all consider each others feelings and needs as life can unexpectedly throw obstacles in our way which can be a problem for some and we need to be aware of that in order to be able to share our partners burden. Communicating feelings is the key in my humble opinion. I hope that helps.

Has something specific happened Nellie?

To be blunt I think for me this question is a dead duck!

jings Rory's such a trooper. He can now hobble on the injured foot. That is so much better than hopping along. He's not allowed out without an escort. Mr soop insists that, until he's able to fend off an aggressor, he needs a bodyguard. To watch the man and his cat slowly stroll around the garden, is a real treat.

lol at Rory keeping stiff upper lip.

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Darling gramps It is cold and sunny and we are still having on/off problems with the power supply. However...we born-again Scots are hardy folk. Even Rory, the cat, maintains a stiff upper lip.

We haven't moved, gramps...in fact we haven't yet purchased the plot or sold our present home. It will be at least a year before we are living in the wee hoos in the orchard.

Keep warm. Much love. xxx

Hi Soop,
thank you for your lovely comment and a very warm hug from me. You will probably need all the warmth you can get in Scotland just now!
Did your move go smoothly? Are you settling in well now?

Stay warm and hope you're not too snowed in !
Love and best wishes,
Vic. xxx

Gramps you are a special person. A warm hug from me to you.

ok so a missing "P" may help!

Oh Galen, they needed incinerating months ago, but when I got near the furnace the smell was so pungent. It acted like a fire extinguisher and killed the furnace stone dead!
Be very careful how you handle it --sontaneous combustion may occur if the long johns dry out!! POOMPH!

gramps do you mean Lils bar? That and clean can't be put in the same sentence!
They're still using the pair of long johns you abandoned in Lils bed to scrub clean the counter!

Cheers to Hunt! 59 years and many more!

We've been together for59 years and married for 57. I wish I knew the magic ingredient that keeps us so happy in each others company. I'd bottle it and make a fortune!

Bless you gramps, of course we missed you. Sorry that you're not feeling too good, hope they can help you
Keep your pecker up!

So sorry Ladies,
But I have been unwell for a few weeks now. I haven't really wanted to talk to many people, partly due to my Parkinson's, partly due to terrible pains in my legs, have been rather down!

I can't settle down too , skipping around the forums on the computer still writing poetry.
My consultant has sent me see a neuro surgeon to try and relieve the pain some waiting for consultation with anaesthetist at the moment.. Thanks for your concern I didn't think I was that missed by anybody. Best wishes to all keep the Bar clean for my return!
Gramps xxxx

Are you alright? Or in modern talk, RUOK.

gramps! Lovely story, but more to the point - where have you been?