Obsolete grandma

Don't give up. Keep the communication going even in a small way. They probably don't 'need' you at the moment at don't realise you are feeling left out. It's good you have a life of your own and good friends so stay cheerful and look forward, not back.

This is so sad and I really feel for you. I don't know how to resolve this situation other than by trying to explain it to your daughter. Have you thought of becoming an adoptive granny to another family? Lots of people out there dont have a granny and would welcome one.

I was going to say, "give up on it", but I guess it must be hard if it's your only daughter. My elder DD is a bit like this but I'm lucky enough to have a younger one who likes hanging out with her mum. I'm not sure there is much you can do to be honest. Perhaps tell her how you feel? She might not realise.