Feeling a tad annoyed. Last week the S.O. said we should go out for the day on Monday. I said the event he'd chosen wasn't worth going to [it was actually cancelled yesterday anyway] but there was somewhere we could go to on Tuesday. He said he was seeing his son that day so I said that was fine; I'd only suggested it because I felt he'd wanted a day out. I then said at the weekend that I'd got my grandson on Tuesday afternoon and he said 'but that means we can't go out' and I said 'but you've got your son anyway?' [he'd cancelled it but hadn't told me he had]. I then said 'don't you dare pull that face on me [he denied that he had, but he had] because I have never once complained if any sudden family problem he had had stopped us doing anything; imo our families come first'. I thought I'd got the message across, but then, yesterday he told me to tell my daughter that 'in future she is to give us more notice of any childcaer she needed' 
. I pointed out that I hadn't been asked but that I had offered in case her husband got stuck in traffic on his way back from work [he'd booked time off to look after the children but we're surrounded by roadworks in every direction here at the moment]. If I'd passed his 'message' on to my daughter that would have been the nail in the coffin of their relationship, which is somewhat rocky at times. I now sense an atmosphere still. Now I've retired he seems to be wanting more of my time and our weekends together are spreading into the week. I have a house to maintain and I'm only just getting on top of all of the jobs that mounted up when I was working [he can't do do it yourself']. It's not the first time he's made me feel awkward in my own home. When I first knew him he came round one Friday night [for the weekend]and I went to a friends for a cup of tea. I stayed later than planned and he was sulking when I got home; I said he was making me feel uncomfortable in my own house. He's really lovely in other ways, but I feel my house is getting to be a battleground. It's our family home. Sorry about that; it was let rip on here or do it for real [he's just turned up to walk the dog].
I've never turned down an invite [not that I can remember many] it's just that my daughter knows me well enough to know that I'm not that good with social events. Don't think it's because of the S.O. [that was a separate moan, I just thought I'd stick it on the same thread as don't want to clogg up the system]. What has probably happened is that my daughter was just meeting her mates at the pub, my son phoned her to say they were dropping in to give her a card/present and she said she'd be in the pub at that time and to go there. I've felt very odd today. For years after my daughter was born I tended to re live the day each year, then that stopped happening but, for some reason with it being her 35th last night I lay in bed in total disbelief that it had all happened 35 years ago. Another reason why I'm decorating as a way of diverting my thoughts. How can 35 years go [in the words of Tommy Cooper]'juslikethat'. 
We do still have our own homes. Having spent 12 day together on holiday it's now Bank Holiday so he's still here. I did send him home last night because I'm decorating the bedroom [he said to decorate it next time he goes away for a few days but I said I wanted to do it now]. Can't seem to understand that I just want to have the place to myself sometimes 
. His house is just a pied a terre to him, mine being the one he regards as 'home'. Anyways, my son has just dropped in on his way to my daughters birthday bash [but he did give me a plant which I think might be a sort of 'cheer you up' gesture]. I don't actually want to go to the pub anyway as I can't wait to start decorating. KatyK; hug on it's way to you 
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That really is awful
Ladies - welcome to my world! We are going to watch our DGD in a dance show/play tonight - she has the starring role 
. My DD, SIL, DGD, their friends and friend's parents are all going for a curry afterwards. Everyone except me and DH.
Can I have a quick moan again please . My daughters birthday is tomorrow and my son just mentioned that he was going to see her at the village pub sometime tomorrow. Seems to be an open invite for everyone except me . Came back from the seaside several days early as well to do the school run today. I wouldn't have gone to the pub anyway [she probably knows me well enough to assume that] but I do feel a bit hurt, probably because I'd metioned to my grandson how much I loved zoos and he said they were planning to go soon but didn't have enough free tickets for me. My SIL said recently that I needed to do more things away from the S.O. [which is true] but it seems that that doesn't include doing things with them [again, not that I want to but it would be nice to be invited]. I am looking after the children for a whole weekend when they go away for a weekend soon. Sorry for that. Feel better now.....
Tegan shall we do a Thelma and Louise? The mutts could go into the back and we could head off into the sunset
grannyactivist I always understood that 'friends with benefits' meant 'sex buddies'.
Hmm....I think your relationship might be summed up as 'friends with benefits'? If this is the case the problems mount up when problem areas start to outweigh the benefits. Perhaps it's time to sit down together and actually thrash out the difficulties before you end up verbally thrashing each other. In the meantime have a virtual (((hug))) and some to brighten your mood. (If only life were really that simple eh?)
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