Any surrogate grannies intrested in being adopted?

Hi Rose83. It bothers me slightly that your post has been on here for a while and there's been no response, which may leave you feeling even more neglected and angry.
My feelings are, reading between the lines of your post, that your mother and yourself may be going through one of the all too common rifts that a lot of mum's and daughter's go through - have a look at some of the heartbreaking posts on here, they'll show you how soul-destroying a breakup between mother and child can be. Perhaps a more positive move would be for you and your mother to sit down with a cup of tea and talk about what's going wrong, and if this doesn't work after one sitting, then meet and talk again, and again until you both see blue sky through the clouds. No granny or mother want's to live a life without their own children or grandchildren involved in it. Life's too short for this angry posturing - a talk over a cup of tea and a slice of cake with a good dollop of forgiveness spread over it could work wonders

You say yourparents are "not that bothered" which is sad. Is there a rift there too? I do hope you and your OH can somehow restore a happy relationship. I would feel very shut out if my DD wrre to seek a surrogate for me I know! Good luck!

HI Rose, I didn't respond to your post because I don't live anywhere near you. Perhaps there is a local Gransnet group in your area and you could try posting on that page?

I am a happy surrogate gran to 2 little ones who live nearby. Their grandparents are in a different country. They have been coming to my house since they were born - quite literally in the case of the eldest one, because his mum came straight to me from the hospital because they had a plumbing disaster at home

Hi Rose. Unfortunately I live the other end of the country or I'd love to be a surrogate gran to your four - children and grannies are meant to be shared and I love children, used to work with them - as my daughter rightly says, I don't care if they are related to me or not! For the past five years we've been surrogate grandparents to a little boy with severe autism and he's given us so much pleasure, it's been wonderful watching him grow and develop. Hope you find a suitable gran soon and don't beat yourself up too much about the poor relationships with their biological grandparents, these things happen, not always anyone's fault.