My granddaughter's relationship with her other grandparents

You are clearly a very warm, loving tactile person, which she loves. They are possibly less so, and don't give out those lovely warm safe vibes. My MiL was a very cold fish and used to shake hands with her son and wouldn't have dreamt of cuddling/kissing her grand children. Maybe it is just who they are x

My youngest GD always tells me she loves my house much more than the other grannys as I have a pool that we get out when its very hot that she can play in... I'm sure she tells the other granny something similar I wouldn't read anything into what was said.. she's 4 for goodness sake.

fairygodmother are you concerned that your granddaughter is being mistreated in some way by the other grandparents?

I'm pleased and lucky that I get on with the other grandparents and the GC often see us together which I think is nice for them too. That said we are very different which sometimes the GC like and sometimes use as a weapon but I'm not going to one sleep over it. I think it's good for them to know that people even in families are different. In fairness I think the other grandparents are more relaxed than we are - or rather I am!

I have a terrible memory of being very small, about 3 and announcing to my parents that I liked Grandparents X better than Grandparents Y. I didn't even click at the time that they were my parents' parents I was so young. Truth was I loved both sets dearly and equally, and was referring more to whose house I liked best as one set had a house and garden and the other set lived in a maisonette and worried terribly about the stairs and so I was unable to move about quite so freely. So, dont worry, probably just a throw away comment. It haunts me still though

Grannyactivist. I did not say that I was saddened because my granddaughter wasn't lucky enough to have been a 'chosen by adoption' child. I said that I was saddened because she was their only natural grandchild - very different.
I agree with the rest of you, and no I am not one to interfere; I have a life outside of being a grandparent.

My grandson adores me, I absolutely know he does. But on occasion it hasn't stopped him from saying his other granny is nicer than me! He's four and just learning something about the power of words, of truth and of manipulation. He usually ends all visits, phone conversations etc. with 'I love you granny' - and it's the truth, but he also knows I like to hear it said.
On another tack entirely, I don't see any reason to be 'saddened' because your granddaughter wasn't lucky enough to have been a 'chosen by adoption' child. The other grandparents have two grandchildren and hopefully are not discriminatory regarding the way their grandchildren came into the family.

Maybe they wouldn't let her eat six icecreams in a row the last time she saw them? Next meeting may be a treat that she really enjoys - then she will be saying "I like them better than you".

As Gillybob says, don't read too much into it, and don't ask her "Do you still not like your other grandparents?"

When I was about that age, one grandmother said to me "You like Granny F better than me, don't you?" (she was a bit insecure and needed a lot of reinforcement - but I was too young to know that) I had been at Granny F's the day before and had a good time, but life with Granny S that day was rather boring, so being a truthful little girl, I agreed with her. It was thrown back at me at intervals for years. In fact, I was very fond of Granny S, and later when I knew her life history, I could quite understand why she was a bit needy.

I don't see what there is to worry about and I don't think any intervention by you would be appropriate. She is entitled to like or dislike whoever she wants and if she has voiced these opinions to you she has probably said the same to her parents.It is up to them to deal with it and I think your DiL would see your concerns as interference.

I would try not to read anything into it at this stage fairygodmother. Children of a very young age have a wonderful knack of telling us what we want to hear and my three little monkeys darlings can turn on the big eyes and the cutsey baby voice whenever they need to.

My DiL's parents are very different to myself and DH and they "do" grandparenting in a different way to us but that doesn't mean our way is best. Have you thought that DGD might be telling them that she doesn't like you?