Very Sad but I think Mum has decided enough's enough.

merlot Much the same thing happened to my dad, it makes your blood boil when staff are so lacking in common sense and compassion.
(((hugs)))

merlot

How very difficult for you. Perhaps a family conference to decide how best to deal with this last phase of Mum's life and then you can all talk to the medics with the same aim in view. xxx

When Mum went to this home, one of the first task we were given was to fill in an 'End of life Plan' for her.

As there was no panic my brothers and I were given the time to talk about it between ourselves and also with the staff at the home. We reached agreement quite easily (well, I'm the eldest so they are used to being guided!). I was therefore confused when mum last had breathing problems that the same GP felt the need to check that we still felt the same.

Merlot, I'm glad you are not at odds with your brother, I've posted before about not being on good terms with my brothers for many years, and know how much we missed!

I hope your Mum can be left in peace now and be allowed to exercise her choice. It must be a very difficult time for you all - well apart from your wine drinking brother

Oh Merlot that is unreasonable. No wonder you are angry. (((hugs)))

Such a difficult situation for you all. So easy for the rest of us to know what to do but when you are right in the middle of it it is so hard to think logically and impossible to do so without the emotional pressure. I suggest some deep breaths and just survive for the moment. Planning at this stage would seem pretty useless.

merlot I've just caught up with this thread today, and hope that after this past day, your Mum is comfortable and less agitated.

Not surprised you had to let off steam merlot and glad there has been no fall outs nor likely to be.

Hope your mum is over her ordeal and had a more peaceful day.

Mum is now back in the nursing home and very weak. All she wants to do it sleep but recognises me when she opens her eyes for a few seconds. Not eating or drinking and no longer on a drip so I don't think it can be long now.

I've reminded my older brother of the agreement we all made with mum's doctor concerning her end of life plan that there would be NO intervention. I have POA but didn't want to risk a huge rift in the family by 'pulling rank'.

I've broken a tooth (probably from too much gritting of) DSIL contacts me on facebook every day and asks what mum has had for lunch. I find it so strange that they just do not seem able to accept the inevitable. [tears of frustration emoticon]

Younger brother is now back from his hols and will be up on Thursday to see mum and give me some support.

Somewhere in the midst of all this I have to arrange Millie's anal gland op., or the insurance company might query the sudden halt in treatment.

I'm glad she is back in familiar surroundings where the staff know her, and that she still recognises you, Merlot

Keep your chin up Merlotgran allow yourself some relaxation

Every good wish for the right outcome, I do hope you know what I mean.

Still thinking of you Merlot. This is such a hard time for you but remember that "this too shall end". So much support on here for you - hope it helps a bit.

It helps an awful lot, Gagagran I can't thank everyone enough.

It sounds as though she is slipping peacefully away without distress, which is as it should be. Well done for holding all this together.

Dear Merlot,

I have been following your posts and I, like many GN's, understand and know the sadness of your situation.

It is difficult to be strong but at the same time strength can come easy when there is an acceptance of the inevitable and you know you did exactly what your mother wanted you to do. I am sure your love for each other has been intensified over the last few days and that is a memory you will have in time that will hopefully see you through the next few days and beyond.

I just checked in to see how things are with your mother merlot. Stay strong.

Thinking of you merlot, and your mum

Thinking of you merlot. This is a hard time but as others have said, you are doing all you can for your mum and that will, in time, be a comfort to you. POGS said it more eloquently than I can

Let her slip away Merlot.

My thoughts are with you and your mum merlot. I know what you are going through and having to be the strong one.

(((Hugs))) of support for you, your mum and all your family.

(Isn't it time we had a hug emoticon? Perhaps a fluffy cloud?)

Merlot I think that doing what your mum wants now will be a comfort to you all later. I am glad she seems to be peaceful and hope she continues to be so. Hard for you now but I am sure you will look back on this time and be glad you did what you did.

Thinking of you, Merlot xxx

You and your Mum are still in my thoughts, Merlot.