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rubylady Fri 24-Oct-14 15:03:36

My DS seems to have a pattern of being fine for a while and then blows up (he's 17) and says some awful things to me. Last night he told me I was a useless piece of sh*t. Needless to say, I was in tears in bed. And a lot worse has been said too. We had gone to Ikea during the day for things for the new house, had a lovely day together and then I spent the evening until 2 am trying to find him a new coat (he lost his in the move) online (money's tight etc.). He had heard that a friend was in trouble, being beat up by a gang and wanted to get involved. I said not to get involved too much because we have just moved from the neighbour who was violent and aggressive and I don't want it coming to my door in this house. Was I unreasonable to say this? Is this normal, is it hormones or am I just a bad mum? Sometimes he has my head confused.

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rubylady Mon 03-Nov-14 00:17:38

Thanks Faye for your lovely comment. How do I have him stay at home though if I am not working and claiming benefits? I don't know how that works or if he would have to pay my rent/council tax etc if he has a job. He wouldn't like to do that and I would not like to be kept by my son. X

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rubylady Mon 03-Nov-14 00:19:35

I am not working due to my health, I have heart failure and am waiting for an open heart operation. Plus other things too health wise. I would love to work but frustratingly I am not capable at this time. X

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Faye Mon 03-Nov-14 02:34:04

You shouldn't have to work with ill health ruby. I remember the council/poll tax when I lived in the UK. It's different in Australia, your home and income has nothing to do with an adult child. We have council taxes of course but it's worked on the value of your house, not how many adults live in a house.

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