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Son being mentally abused by wife???

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Ariadne Sat 29-Nov-14 21:03:12

I can echo that! It is very hard, and service life, as I know only too well, doesn't leave much emotional room in a marriage sometimes.

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merlotgran Sat 29-Nov-14 20:58:03

All you can do at the moment is support them both. They are a young couple with a young baby and it sounds as though your DiL is struggling. Looking after a 7 month old baby is going to be draining so she is probably taking out her anxiety on your DS because he's first in the firing line. She may also resent the fact he's in a job where camaraderie and support from colleagues is a given.

As a young mum with two babies only 11 months apart, I can remember bottling up all kinds of frustration during the day and then letting poor DH have both barrels as soon as he walked in the door although I didn't resort to verbal abuse.

Talk to your DS and ask him if he thinks looking after the baby is getting on top of her and making her feel isolated. You say he's unhappy but it sounds like his wife is as well.

Good Luck.

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Jen67 Sat 29-Nov-14 20:27:23

Hi all, not on here often.just would like some advice please. Our son has been married almost a year and has a 7 month old son. His wife seems super on the face of it and both myself and my husband help them out out in many ways ..... We are only too delighted to do so. I am constantly helping and advising my Dil literally daily, morning to night as she calls and texts for all sorts of reasons, and I never let her down or turn her away. They are are young couple btw. We found out today that our son is desperately unhappy and is suffering daily , what almost amounts to verbal abuse it seems to us. Continual bossing as soon as he comes in from work,( he is in the armed forces), name calling, the rudest of the swear words at times, and he is at the end of his teather. He doesn't want to divorce for the sake of his child but doesn't know what else to do..... Advice please!! Do we just carry on with a front of normality for now?

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