living alone

I think, as you've already said, you would be better off on your own, not least because having anyone around you would add to your already considerable worries and fears.
It is preposterous (IMO) to decide to set out to cultivate a relationship with anyone, use them and then dump them! As for men using 'women all the time for their own ends', that isn't my experience at all though obviously it does happen but definitely not all men......

Im not good with relationships with women either. I get bored with them after a week.

Can you not find a new friend who isn't male ?

Do men not use women all the time for their own ends. Im just being honest.

No Im not winding anyone up, never thought of it considering the subject. Please believe me. Yes I may be a calculating cow as someone suggested but I just cant bear the thought of having to put up with a man for any other reason. I much prefer to live alone, I get sick of being in a relationship after a few weeks.

I suppose if I were rich I would advertise for a companion, who I would pay then I would not have to worry about being nice to someone all the time. I do tend to verbally abuse people if I have to live with them.
But I did think of a sort of temporary relationship might be a good idea.
People are getting dumped all the time and I would not want to be around to nurse a partner if they were ill. Im just being honest.

Maybe I will just stay on my own.

Hospitals in our area do have visitors' volunteer drivers who will take a patient to hospital and then back home. You may feel that you wouldn't want to ask for this service but the folks who do it (my friend does this) want to do it, and they are also getting something out of it... helping someone.
MacMillan does I know often help a cancer patient with a bursery towards expenses, I don't if the patient has to be an in-patient or if there is a particular criteria.

Ethel DOES have a history of winding up in the past, ginny, as she has admitted herself. Surely you would not be so heartless as to wind people up to get a reaction over something so serious as a cancer diagnosis, ethel ?

As others have suggested there are ways to get to the hospital.

I can't believe you are even thinking of starting a relationship to use some poor man and then dump him when you don't need him.

I apologise if I am wrong but some of your posts make me wonder if you are real or just trying to get some reaction.

I agree with tanith. You can do it on your own, ethel - I don't think anyone on here would advise you to take advantage of someone just to see you through a bad patch.

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Lots of people who don't have anyone seem to manage when it comes to being ill/hospital visits.. I'm not saying its ideal but I'd rather manage than dupe someone into a relationship just so I had someone to go with me. I'm sorry you are alone and finding things difficult in your illness but I don't think using someone is the answer...

Can your DD not arrange to take time off to go with you now and again, etheltbags1?
I wouldn't think that it was realistic (or fair on the other person) to cultivate a relationship in order to create a carer for yourself.