So now I know

ga hugs, [sumshine] to you.

You are a strong, brave woman, and you deserve resolutions. Meanwhile, I wish you peace at this difficult time xxx

Such a stressful time for you ga

It will be hard to relax with so much going on in your life, but you are definitely doing the right thing to take some time out. I am sure it will all be going round in your head; but you will have a bit of time to process it all. We are all thinking of you.

grannyactivist, thanks for posting your news and from reading the posts above, you've shared something so many of us empathise with. It's good to hear you and your sister have been able to talk about something that must have haunted both of you for so long

Enjoy your R&R Ga. I have no doubt you have earned every minute. My best wishes to all.

Thank you everyone for your good wishes. I know I've said it before, but it bears repeating; Gransnetters, you have been a true source of support and encouragement to me many times - you're all much appreciated. [thanksalot emoti]

Tomorrow I'm going home for a few days R&R at the insistence of my siblings - indeed they've even paid for my train ticket. I've been spending most of every day at the hospital and have had very little time to process recent major life events so they ganged up on me and will hold the fort between them until Wednesday when I return. (They do so with some trepidation - my mother is not easy to manage, even when she's so ill.)

Everything everyone else has said

Ga what a lot you are having to cope with I wish you strength and hope that the past can be healed.

A time when you can do nothing but wait, grannyactivist. Nothing is expected of you, only that you are there for them (all of them) when things settle again. Sending a warm arm round your shoulders for just now. x

I hope everything is going to work out well for you now ga
and all best wishes for your DM and the baby

GA can imagine how your mind must be in turmoil. You are very much in my thoughts and prayers, with profound hope that all will be well with your new grandchild and her Mum

So many things to cope with all at once, but hopefully light at the end of the tunnel. Thinking of you.

for you ga

My heart goes out to you...
A little star of hope is shining, and may it shine for your mother, dear special little granddaughter so far away, and your estranged dear daughter.

hope things turn around for you all ...

I presume your sister was asked not to say anything? How awful, for all of you, and you must be feeling torn every which way. I hope there are calmer times head.

Rest is good - recharge for the challenges ahead.

I am glad that you are finding some peace.

You are going through one of those awful times that life throws at some of us. I know its not the first time you've had to draw on all your strength.

My thoughts are with you (((hugs)))

ga isn't it strange how crises can bring about such changes when they aren't expected? I recognise that feeling about being so close to life and death and the calm that can be found in the midst of such turmoil. I hope your little grandaughter will soon be growing and showing her family that she is resilient and ready to put her mark on the world.

That's really good to have found those moments amongst an absolute maelstrom of emotions GA
I fail to understand your sister not saying anything up to now, knowing what she does, but hopefully things will turn around x

soon it's a different daughter.
My sister's reason for not saying anything sooner is because she didn't want my mum to know the cause of my daughter cutting herself off. She was going to wait until mum had died to tell me, but yesterday was overcome with guilt and decided to get it off her chest.
I can't explain the mixture of emotions I'm experiencing today. I'm sitting in a darkened side room at my mother's bedside, looking at photo's of my granddaughter (barely visible in the midst of wires and tubes) on my ipad and occasionally getting supportive messages from my younger three children, husband and friends; thinking of life and death and the nature of relationships. I seem to have found real peace in the eye of the storm.

grannya you are having a tough time at the moment so I hope something good will come from this development.
Good wishes for your dgd and your mum, and I hope your daughter is recovering too.
Bless you

By the way, I have always assumed that the split with your DD was not down to you ga - from your posts here it is clear that you are a kind and tolerant person and would not have done anything to make her cut herself off. I know that you will have the goodness of heart to let bygones be bygones if at long last some sort of rapprochement takes place. I really do have my fingers and toes crossed for you in all your current trials.

GA sending you all best wishes for a happier and closer future, whatever has gone before