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The nightmare of teenage parties and Facebook.

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merlotgran Thu 16-Jul-15 16:10:39

DGS3 will be fifteen next week. Like last year we've told him he can have a camping sleepover on our field with a barbecue and football match. His friends are lovely lads and were no trouble at all. I even cooked them all breakfast!!

I went on facebook earlier to leave a message for somebody and saw, to my horror, that one of his friends has created an 'Event' page and is calling it a Rave shock shock angry

The stupid boy has given out the location, date and time. I daren't tell DH as he suffers from anxiety since his stroke and will worry himself stupid and insist we cancel DGS's party.

I contacted DD immediately to see if she could get in touch with her friend (the boy's mother) and get it taken down ASAP. God knows how many people have seen it because it's still there.

I'm in a panic because DGS2, (older brother) who has obviously been tagged in, is at 6th form in Cambridge, of all places so this could be circulating all over the place by now. [wailing in terror emoticon]

My only hope is that nobody will find us as we're way off the beaten track hmm

Luckygirl Thu 16-Jul-15 16:15:25

B****y social media! Perhaps you should talk to GS himself. My OH would go apeshit, as they say!

annsixty Thu 16-Jul-15 16:32:15

I really think the only thing to do is to cancel and rearrange the party. Once the news in in the ether there will be little you cab do to stop the hoards turning up. Good Luck.

merlotgran Thu 16-Jul-15 16:33:30

I already have, Luckygirl. He's trying to deal with it and he's such a sweetie I haven't the heart to give him a hard time. I blamed his older brother to begin with because he was tagged in and it looked as though he had created it. Thank goodness I found out what had really happened before the 'Granny lecture' because at 17 he has a bit of a short fuse.

I wonder how the boy's mother would feel if I announced on social media there was going to be a rave round at her house?

Ana Thu 16-Jul-15 16:35:11

And the problem is that even if the party's cancelled, some will turn up anyway...

What an awful dilemma for you, merlot! sad

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 16-Jul-15 16:39:36

Perhaps it will only be a little rave. How old is GS in question? You can't really expect him to be content with a Boy Scout type of sleepover for ever. Just keep your windows shut and let them get on with it. [therethere]

Coolgran65 Thu 16-Jul-15 16:40:25

Nightmare. I wish you well.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 16-Jul-15 16:40:47

Oh, you've said he is fifteen. Sorry.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 16-Jul-15 16:43:04

So long as you only let them on your field, it may be alright. Could you get a portaloo or two in?

Luckygirl Thu 16-Jul-15 16:57:16

Maybe you need to alert the police so that a bobby can just happen to stroll round and support you in ejecting any who turn up.

merlotgran Thu 16-Jul-15 17:11:54

He's taken it down now but it's been on there for thirteen hours shock

I don't think cancelling will help because the ones who are invited are no trouble at all and the uninvited ones might still turn up.

I'll see what DD says when she gets home from work.

ninathenana Thu 16-Jul-15 18:14:53

shock Oh dear.
Good luck sorting it merlot

AshTree Thu 16-Jul-15 18:41:30

Oh dear God, what would you do with them?! I'm sure it won't turn out to be the nightmare you fear merlot, but I do so understand how you feel. Good luck!

merlotgran Thu 16-Jul-15 19:00:51

jingl, I'm not sure I can prevent DH from noticing there are a couple of porta-loos on the field. One pink and one blue, I presume? grin

The cottages down the road share the same postcode so I could always put a sign on the gate with a large arrow......This way to the rave?

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 16-Jul-15 19:19:03

Perhaps you could put a new notice on Facebook saying, Admission £25. Pay on the gate.

That might reduce numbers.

You could tell DH the WI are holding a fete congress in the field, to explain the portaloos.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 16-Jul-15 19:20:29

Perhaps I'm not helping much.

When is it? Will you report live on here? (Rubs hands in gleeful anticipation)

Falconbird Thu 16-Jul-15 19:44:50

Merlotgran - My heart goes out to you. Many years ago when my son was 15 a low key party at our house got right out of hand. A bunch of much older lads turned up, drink was bought in and it began to get really worrying.

This was before the days of Fb.

I don't think much of the friend who put the message on Fb. but 15 year old boys can be very stupid and I speak from experience having raised 3.

Try and get the situation under control before next week and definitely ask your DD for help and advice. You don't need this stress particularly as your DH is not in the best of health and has anxiety.

Needless to say my other two lads never had a party at our house.

loopylou Thu 16-Jul-15 19:45:29

Best of luck merlot, perhaps strategic signs at every road junction pointing to anywhere away from your field?

I truly feel for you, I'd be panicking big time I'm no help whatsoever hmm

annodomini Thu 16-Jul-15 20:24:34

My neighbour and her partner left her 15-year-old daughter on her own with a hot line to grandad (living locally) if she needed help. She, of course, decided to have a party. Word got round and gatecrashers arrived with vast quantities of booze. My house is an end terrace with access to next door via my back yard. I backed my car up against my gate so that they couldn't get through, but they used the front door. The noise was awful and the police were called. I leave it to your imagination what chaos faced my neighbour when she came home. Much chastened, the daughter came round the next daywith a bunch of flowers. She is now a well respected primary school teacher.*jingl*, I hope you will now stop treating merlot's predicament as a joke and stop rubbing your hands 'in gleeful anticipation'. It is never funny for the adults who have to deal with the aftermath of a teenage party - or 'rave'.

merlotgran Thu 16-Jul-15 20:33:48

DD has spoken to the lad and he's very sorry and didn't realise he was being irresponsible so I'll have to go with that. In the words of Captain Mainwaring.....Stupid Boy!!

If anyone starts turning up who isn't invited we'll ask the farmer who owns the road to block the entrance with a trailer then they won't be able to turn off the main road.

DGSs friends are supposed to be arriving at 5pm so if anyone arrives after that we'll phone the police.

Thank goodness he's not having a party in the house.

jingl, I think DH would be more scared of the WI turning up than an illegal rave. grin

Iam64 Thu 16-Jul-15 21:09:14

Well sorted merlotgran, especially for doing all this and keeping your sense of humour (WI - EH and illegal rave comment for jingle, who had too much fun on this thread) grin

The tractor across the road followed by phoning the police sounds like a plan. Do you have any ferocious dogs?

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 16-Jul-15 21:11:45

Spoilsports. hmm wink

merlotgran Thu 16-Jul-15 21:24:26

No ferocious dogs but some noisy, yappy ones, Iam Blocking the farm road will be our first line of defence as DD knows the manager so she can forewarn him.

Hopefully, with no further posts on facebook, it will be forgotten about.

Fingers crossed.

annodomini Thu 16-Jul-15 23:12:23

You've done all you can, merlot. I hope it all goes peacefully. Fingers crossed.