Toxic people

Anya Has she always been nasty or did something go very wrong in her life?
She has clearly ended up in a right mess and her alcoholism is going to make it even more difficult to engage with her.
Given the determination with which some people seem destined to self destruct there really is not much you can do.

You have been in touch via the SW . I would leave it , some people are better left as they wish

I'm going for a long walk now, in the rain, to try to get my head in order.

Thanks for listening

I can't contact her as I have no contact details, and the one person who has, has been told (by her) not to pass them on.

But WW there's a lot of truth in your last statement.

How sad and such a shame this has happened I would be devastated if this was my sister I think one more try would not be so bad even though you have spoken with the SW and she has told you of your sisters wishes because everyone knows its her illness which has caused her to loose all her family and friends what a sad way to end her days.

How sad. She must be feeling very lonely, unless I suppose she prefers it that way. You didn't say whether you intend to contact her. You could give it a go but not expect too much then you won't be too hurt

I agree with sunseeker - try once more, even if results in another rejection. If you can find out where she is.
The fact that you posted it on here shows that you still care.

A wasted life indeed Ana

There are other family members sunseeker but when I told them they wanted nothing to do with her. She has my phone number but has chosen not to get in touch. I phoned her Social Worker and was told she (the SW) was not allowed to talk to me and my sister has forbidden it.

She has a SW due to her alcoholism.

It does seem that some people get into the habit of pushing people away for various reasons, until it gets to the point where they either don't know how to change or don't want to.

What an empty life your sister has had, Anya, such a shame...

That is so sad. Perhaps you could try reaching out to her again - if she rejects you again then it will have been her decision, if you don't you may find yourself feeling guilty for not having tried. If she is truly alone she may be scared and may also wish to repair her relationship with you before it is too late. Do you have any other siblings?

Having a terminal illness does make people reassess their past decisions and actions, reach out to her and if she pushes you away then so be it.

Please don't be sad for me Nina I have a good life.

Just be sad for all those people like my sister.

I feel sad for your sister who is alone in time of need. It does sound as if she's brought her loneliness on her self.
However, I'm more sad for you missing out on a close relationship with her.

Yes, I am