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My grandma is very poorly

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KatyK Fri 04-Sept-15 10:50:19

So sorry to hear this gilly. As others have said above, it has always come across in your posts how close you are to her. flowers She is lucky to have someone as caring as you.

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Luckygirl Fri 04-Sept-15 10:43:32

flowers to you gilly - I hope that she has a peaceful end; and do not beat yourself up about not being able to care for her at home. I am sure that you will be at her side as much as you can. It is hard to watch someone slowly slipping away.

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kittylester Fri 04-Sept-15 10:16:35

Nothing to add gilly except to send you a huge (((hug))). flowers Take care.

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Lona Fri 04-Sept-15 09:55:13

Oh Gilly I know how you're feeling as I'm sure many on here do, and my heart goes out to you.
I hope your dgm doesn't suffer for long, but there's nothing you can do other than be there to hold her hand as much as possible.
Don't feel guilty or beat yourself up, you've done everything you could have done with love.
(((Hugs))) and flowers xx

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jinglbellsfrocks Fri 04-Sept-15 09:54:07

sad I'm so sorry to hear that gillybob. It has come cross always how close you are to her and how much you love her.

It does sound as though she is passing away peacefully. I think that is how my Granny must have passed, years ago now. It's not a bad way to go. She will probably be less and less 'with it' and will turn more and more to sleep.

Try to concentrate on the lovely times you have had together. Don't get too upset if you can help it. It is the point in life that has to come.

God bless you both. x

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gillybob Fri 04-Sept-15 09:42:54

Many of you will already know how close I am to my dear grandma. Sadly she was admitted to hospital just over 2 weeks ago with a viral infection that we felt sure she would overcome quickly and get back home within a few days. But she has deteriated very quickly and is now (in the words of the doctor yesterday) just waiting to "go" (die). It breaks my heart how only two weeks ago we chatted and laughed, we had tea together in her favourite (traditional) way with cups and saucers sandwiches and cream cakes. Now she is NBM as she has lost the ability to swallow.

I feel like my life is "on hold". I am at the hospital twice a day every day and last night I'm not sure she even knew who I was. The doctors say this period could last days or weeks. Her body is just worn out and closing down bit by bit which is very distressing and heartbreaking to watch.

I know at 99 she has had a good, long life but why does it have to be like this?

The doctors have said we could take her home (which was her desire) and they would put some extra care in place, but I'm honestly not sure how we would cope. We are such a small family and my mum (her next of kin) is a very poorly dialysis patient and wheelchair dependant herself.

I'm sorry for this miserable post, I have always had to be the strong one in the family, the one who "sees to everything" but at the minute I just feel so helpless.

Thank you for listening. x

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