xmas and granparents

kupari So sad for you

Kupari, my heart is breaking for you. It's very brave of you to share this information with us, and like the others I hope the OP has read your post.

I can't quite catch the right words to express how sad I am for you this Christmas, lots of love to you and your family. xxx

Kupari, I wish you the loveliest Christmas ever, making memories to last a lifetime.

I hope your words have resonated with the OP, who I'm sure now realises just what a very lucky lady she is.

Kupari, I'm another one who has no words, well, except to say you and yours will be in my thoughts and prayers. Just sending lots of (((hugs))) though I'm not sure even those mean much in your situation. And wishing your strength and peace.

Maniac - Oh! My heart goes out to you! I hope your situation helps the OP to see how lucky she is.

Tegan, I know what you went through must have been very painful and bewildering. So sorry about that! But, IMO, it's not quite the same as the OP's situation - she gets to see her GC quite a bit and just wants an additional day on the holiday. In that light, I agree with Monica - instead of asking for part of the same day as the other GPs are getting (Boxing Day), she could invite them over on New Year's Day or some other time soon.

Oops Alia. Blame predictive text.

Alda. An interesting observation. It is hard to take on board that ones reactions and opinions are not necessarily those of a wider audience. I do hope the OP had a real think about what has been said here. No-one means to be unkind but as we age fewer and fewer people are prepared to criticise us however tactfully and perhaps we all need to look in the mirror from time to time. I do so agree that life is so busy for the young and popping in is never just that. Solution? Keep as busy as we are able to with our own interests so that relying on family to keep us entertained is not necessary.

I fear that yet again, a member has raised a problem which has aroused considerable discussion, but has disappeared into the aether so we have no way of knowing whether or not she is feeling any better about it.

Kupari no words

annieg is it possible the other GPs invited them and your lovely daughter couldn't refuse without causing offence? Maybe the cousins are looking forward to playing together. I wonder if having everyone to her house on Christmas Day was supposed to be a way of pleasing everyone (even though it will be hard work for her) - and then the other GPs invited them all on Boxing Day? Perhaps you could have your GS at some point during the holiday to give your DD and SiL some time to themselves?

Don't make it a competition or let your pride spoil things, just enjoy Christmas Day with your family and take the rest of the Christmas holiday as it comes.

Kupari you're facing every mother's worst fear, it must be so hard for you all. I hope you have loving folk around you to walk with you through this Christmas time and beyond and that the support of friends and strangers eases the load a little.

I think we must adapt to being people who have time on our hands. Popping in for five minutes, is not the same as being a young couple who see five minutes as being an obligation.
My daughter still does not know if she is working at Christmas, and as far as i am concerned my roast beef will have to stand the test of time.
I know they will all be around, but only when they can draw breath. When they can, they will have a warm log fire, great food, plenty to drink, and a happy goodbye.
That is how I see it. It is for them, not for me.

Kupari I know you'll treasure every moment you spend with your daughter and her family this Christmas (((hugs))) and

Kupari I hope you can make some wonderful memories to treasure this Christmas Day

Kupari I am so so sorry. Hope you all find the strength to deal with the coming difficult times. The granchildren will need you more than ever (((hugs))))

kupari So sorry x

I am so sorry to hear your news Kupari no words really for you and your family

Kupari there are no words. I too shall think of you on Christmas day, hoping and praying that it will be a wonderful day for you all to cherish.

* Kupari* your sad news puts all our pettiness into perspective and I salute you with a {{huge hug}} for your bravery. May this indeed be a very special Christmas for all your sakes. Golden memories for you and your DGC and a wonderful day for your brave, brave DD.

Kupari, so very sorry, cannot bear to think what you are all going through, I hope you find the strength to face the future. I have never met you, but I will think of you all on Christmas Day.

Kupari I am so sorry - I don't know what to say, but will think of you and your DD and DGCs on Christmas Day

Oh Kupari, I'm so sorry to hear about your dear daughter, how it puts things into perspective.
I do hope you have a wonderful Christmas and that in due course that you will many very happy memories (it sounds terribly clumsy but I do hope you know what I mean)
and (((hugs))) to you all x

annieg, I read your comments twice to make sure I really did understand the situation. Words almost fail me. You are going to have a wonderful Christmas day with your family and yet you appear to think that you will have been abandoned on Boxing Day. Please dont be so selfish. I expect you will see your daughter again over the Christmas Holiday. Count your blessings !!
This will be the last Christmas we have with my daughter, she is coming to the end of a long battle with Metastic Breast Cancer. She is only 40 and has 3 young children. We have been told she has approx 3 months left. However I shall play my part , as she is hoping for one more happy christmas even if she cant eat much. So annieg I hope you will think about the selfish comments you made, and carefully read the all the replies you have received. I hope you have a lovely Christmas.

MOnica; I must admit to feeling the same as you until it happened to me; completely out of the blue, no contact with DD and the grandchildren. We had [I thought] the closest and most loving relationship possible. I was lucky in that it did resolve itself eventually though. Had it been, say, my son and his partner it would have been more difficult to build bridges. I know I've said this before but Maniacs DGS is missing out so much on having the most wonderful person in his life.

I always feel as if I am walking on eggshells when we have threads like this because I always feel one is only hearing one side of the story, But the thing that strikes me about most of them is that there is a family where members seem unable to have casual friendly chats to sort out problems but end up being confrontational about minor problems and at least one side feels aggrieved over being ignored, or left out and they seem always to be comparing themselves with the other grandparents.

It is not easy, but if only people could stand back, relax and then sort out these issues on a friendly non-antagonistic way.

In this case why does the OP have to see her DGC on Boxing Day, why not arrange to see them over the New Year, or possibly suggest that as one set of grandparents are hosting a meal this Boxing day, she does it next year. There are a probably 100 solutions to this problem if you look for them.

Maniac I hope one day your DGS will find you and your son

Maniac I do feel for you and do hope you will find some happiness this Xmas.
Peace and love to you and yours