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rosesarered Sun 03-Jan-16 11:19:52

we all have to bite our tongues with grown up children/partners at times.
Let them look out for their own children in future, perhaps they won't mind baby food all over their best jacket.

rosequartz Sat 02-Jan-16 23:44:19

Anya very good advice, not seeing (unless child is in danger, of course) and letting it splatter all over his nice clothes grin
Everyone getting fraught after spending time together!

Anya Sat 02-Jan-16 23:20:30

Try hammering the lid straight jingl

Anya Sat 02-Jan-16 23:19:48

I find it helps to throw things too rockchick but perhaps next time let the baby chuck his baby food all over his Dad and pretend you didn't see it coming.

I once threw a sieve of tinned tomatoes at DH (well I kept hold of the sieve) he had the sense to stand still so of course they missed and just splattered all over the kitchen wall and worktops.

Elrel Sat 02-Jan-16 23:08:36

Rockchick - a lot of us have been there and, I'm sure, sympathise! I'm still regretting something I said to DiL 2 years ago although it's gradually blown over and we're OK now.

cornergran Sat 02-Jan-16 22:54:02

I feel the same about my sons. There's a distance it's hard to understand. Age? (Mine!). Different world views? Pressure of their iwn families? Just how it is? I've managed to avoid major rows by a lot of tongue biting but I'm not sure it's a sustainable long term strategy.

Rockchick Sat 02-Jan-16 22:48:17

Wow that's impressive Jinglebells, not sure if the restaurant would have been too pleased if I had thrown the wine :-) it's funny there's lots I could say to him about his behaviour, but I always think what's the point he's his own person and especially as I'm only ever there for a couple of a days at a time ( I live in scotland and he's in Ireland ) we used to be really close when he was a teenager ( I was a single parent ) but we appear to be very different now.

merlotgran Sat 02-Jan-16 22:32:09

DD2 has sent me a very funny facebook message venting her fury at her MIL for expecting to be waited on hand and foot over the three days she stayed for NY.

I could have said, 'Why am I getting it in the neck?' but that's what Mums are for, I suppose. grin

Definitely the time of the year.

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 02-Jan-16 22:25:05

I totally lost it with my son this evening. Over not very much at all. Well, over a tin of biscuits actually. I wanted to chuck 'em out so I didn't get fat on them. (No will power) He didn't go along with it. I haven't shouted that much in a long time. I have now got a bent tin lid cos I threw it quite vigorously on the floor.

Yes. It's the time of the year. This holiday has gone on quite long enough.

Don't worry about it. I don't. hmm

aggie Sat 02-Jan-16 21:16:33

One of those things , can't do right for doing wrong sad

Rockchick Sat 02-Jan-16 21:03:55

Just back from birthday meal with s and dil and family and huge emotional ( on my part ) argument in restaurant between son and I because I told him " watch out baby his baby of 20 months sitting beside him was grabbing the spoon and bowl of baby food, he then told me I shd have come round and got it off him instead of telling and that all weekend I've been doing same. Not sure why but I got really upset, I think he reminded me of ex husband and also felt I had been doing best and asking him before I gave kids treats or letting them do something he might not approve of. Is it the time of year ?