Hi, I am very new to this so please bear with me.
I have a very difficult relationship with my MIL and would love to make it better.
To give a brief history when I met my Husband we got on really well, used to meet up for coffee and go shopping together etc, then when we got engaged she completely changed towards me, making frequent nasty comments, ignoring me, generally being very rude, I tried to include her in the wedding planning inviting her to appointments and asking her opinion on things, but she was always so rude and once she had been rude to my Mum and upset her on a few occasions, I decided not to include her in asking her along as it should have been such a wonderful time planning my wedding it ended up being a dreadful time. My Husband and I ended up getting pregnant just before the Wedding which was planned and she seems to cheer up a bit once we told her. A few months into the pregnancy she changed back to her old ways and we couldn't win no matter what we did for her or what we said, once I had given birth the relationship was at it's worst and she barley came to see her Grandchild, then I decided to meet up with her to see what was wrong and what we could do to fix it so she said she wanted to be more involved we did this and it lasted for about 6 weeks and then my Daughter nearly died of a chest infection as she couldn't fight it off properly, then she went back to her old ways with ignoring us, we asked her to support us a couple of times to be ignored or making it difficult to come and see us.
Finally my Husband feels that we should go and speak to her about it so we are going over on Saturday to speak to her, my question is how to address this, I don't want to go storming in there saying why where you there for us etc I just want my Daughter to have her Grandparents in her life so they can share the joy with us,
Sorry for the long post but I would really appreciate some advice?
