Support for family members cut out of loved ones lives 5

Good news, Smileless! And have fun in Manchester!

Rhinestone, glad you had a good holiday! So did I.

Yoga, so sorry you relived it all in the middle of the night. I guess that will happen, from time to time, as celeb says (sorry to hear that, too, celeb). (((Hugs)))

"When nasty refused to let my D back into their family home after their big argument, my GD regressed to wetting herself, just imagine your mum suddenly not there, for days on end, it must have traumatised the C."

Yes, how cruel! And DGD isn't even his child! He's lucky D didn't try to charge hin with kidnapping!

In fact, don't understand why D let SIL keep the kids from her. Did he have official custody? If not, why didn't she just grab them up on her visit and take them with her?

Jenty, at least you and OD are communicating! That's a good sign. Tread carefully, though, of course...

celebgran - post from admin applied to both 'sides' (as you see it) of the debate.

well I got a reply.. 'We're all fine too, thanks for asking!'

so I replied 'how rude of me to forget to ask well it was early...hope your ok..'

(funny there was no explanation re the granddaughters)

have a good weekend everyone me Im going to hibernate as the weather is awful!

Yogsgirl admin did put post up saying posts trying to cause trouble would be removed so guess that spoilt the fun, very weird how people have time to deliberately try cause problems.

I certainly wouldn't have time got on other threads but some names are on them all. Must be major part of,their lives I suppose.

Wow Jenty at least your d cares enough to email you that's good.

Smilelss so pleased all seems be going well.

Yogsgirl don't even think about anything nasty trolls said.

Your d partner sounds even worse than mine.

I met old college friend for lunch yesterday not seen for ages, i was dreading telling her latest, she knew about ed illness via email but we not met up til yesterday mass she been v I'll chest infection which affected her mood etc.

She is lovley lady and said it would have been reasonable to ed to wanted some contact and what sort of person could just tell you on doorstop your daughter nearly died ? The family she married into unfortunately.

Luckylegs thank you I have bad nights wed had bad dream and had get up make cuppa night terror i call it I picture me in grave and never seeing ed again Itis so awful had that horrid night terror for years now since year or so after estrangement. So feel for you ladies if not got partner.

Going see my old friend from when kids were at playgroup today. I don't want spend too long discussing latest heartbreak as it is just distressing, my friend is great we just click go Vick long way sadly her husband left her about 10 years ago for your younger model but she has survived very well.

Happy weekend. All??maybe.
So Smilelss you found another place? I must missed that. Enjoy break away.
Yogagirl hope you ok as said horrid wake up in night especially when alone,
I did t disturb husband but he wok and got up always leaves me scared to go back sleep.

No, we weren't asked to leave.

oh heck! not sure Ive done the right thing!! ? Ive just got an email from my older daughter out of the blue not heard or seen her in well over a year...the email came across as very cold and she just put her name at the end there was no 'love from' ....apparently my older grandaughter had sent me an email and I hadnt replied and I had not messaged my younger grandaughter and had come off of facebook and daughter wanted to know if I was ok...
I did think about my reply before i clicked send and Im sitting here now wishing I hadnt sent it!
I basically told daughter that I had not recieved an email from older grandaughter and if I had I would have replied....re my younger grandaughter she never replied to my last email and I was very upset to hear that she came down a few weeks back and never found the time to visit me...( she lives miles away) I said I didnt see the point in facebook anymore and that I was ok as it was a case of having to be despite having M.E.

theres was a lot more I wanted to say but it would only fuel the fire...what I dont get is why both adult granddaughters couldnt ring me if they were that concerend why drag their mother into it? bloody families!!

Luckylegs I'm the same as you, re; moving. Here's a bit of Dutch courage

Good morning all

Well done on securing your house sale & purchase Smileless, there is always a bit of price haggling to be done, till the final price is agreed by all, so hope it's plain sailing from now on. Enjoy your Cold Play concert. Yes it's gone back to just us again, wonder if they were asked to leave by HQ, as they all seemed to have gone at the same time.

I woke at 4.30, had tears rolling down my cheeks, going back to when this all began, as you do when you wake so early! That 'Madman' posting that maybe my s.i.l was not nasty, he isn't just nasty, but cruel, wicked & evil too! He has damaged my D&GD. When nasty refused to let my D back into their family home after their big argument, my GD regressed to wetting herself, just imagine your mum suddenly not there, for days on end, it must have traumatised the C.
When my D phoned me to go and get her, after she was allowed to 'visited' her own C and I said those fateful words about 'my D would get custody of the C & home' said in a nice way, to make him see it wouldn't stay as it was, with him in the family home with the C and my D out in the cold! If I hadn't have said those words, I would have gone round to collect my D, as asked, would I have found the C crying upstairs [?] and if so, what would I have done [?] how could I have left, leaving my GD crying for her mum & me, leaving her with a boy that is not her dad, a boy that has shown he doesn't love her, nor my D! My D & I had already agreed that if nasty refused to let her stay, that we would go to the police to get the C out. But of course I said those fateful words that made nasty's hate jump from my D to me, he then took her back and cut me out, took him 6 weeks to brainwash my D to do it, no doubt with threats to my D 'It's me & the C or your mum' as he had already cut her off from her own C, she believed he would do it again.
I remember at the beginning of that year, when they had a house warming party, I arrived a little later than the others and my D paternal grandfather's long term partner said " Do you know, that's the first time I've seen L****'s face light up & smile, when you walked in the room" and the trolls that come on here say we have no right to want to stay in our GC lives and they get all their love from their parents, so don't need ours, their GPs. My GD & GS clearly loved me very much and must have been as bereft as me when we were ripped apart & suddenly never saw each other again!
I just wonder how my precious GD is being treated since I was cut out, my GS is fine as he is nasty's S and loved by him.

Good news Smileless about the house, and seeing Cold Play what a treat?? I don't
know, what we do for love. Yogagirl, so glad you are back, you right about the Yoga, at the moment all I do iswork, the house and the garde take up all my time, I wish I could summon the courage to move somewhere I could manage so I could start doing Yoga, dancing etc, but get frightened at leaving the one place that has been my home for 46 years, although I can't manage it, I don't know where to move to. Jenty we would be stuck to the floor together, but I would take sandwiches to share.Celebregran, cannot get over how well you are doing, you should be so proud, , think you are tight about Aquacise, but it's the getting wet bit I don't enjoy, unless I'm in the sea. Rhinestone glad you having such a great time. Love to Wendy as well, hope everyone has a good weekend, I will be in the usual place the garden, it should be open to the public soon and you could all come and give me a kick up the rear end to move.x?????

Evening ladies, well it's been a very strange week. As you know we accepted an offer on the house on Mondayonly to have the prospective buyers change their minds on Tuesday.

But, our estate agent contacted the other couple and got them to make a more realistic offer which was still on the low side but, we got the owner of the house we want to buy to drop his price so it's still worked out well in the end.

Mr. S. and I have been making plans so fingers crossed it all goes smoothly from now on.

Glad you had a good evening Celeb. Yes Jenty that was a lovely post and the thought of you stuck to the floor did make me laugh.

Glad you enjoyed Memorial day Rhinestone; it's lovely to read about do many of you getting out there, getting on with your lives and having a good time.

Looks like the thread's got back to normal so well done ladies.

Don't know if I'll get on line again until Sunday or Monday as we're off to Manchester tomorrow and are going to see Cold Play on Saturday.

Now you all know how much I love Mr. S. but OMG the thought of seeing Chris Martin; I simply can't wait.

Morning Girls

You can start yoga at any age, and go back to it after a long break, just find a 'gentle Hatha yoga' class and you will be fine & you'll enjoy it. It's for mind, body & soul, so best thing to do if you're stressed or unhappy, that's why I do yoga every day & teach 1-4 times per day 6 days sometimes 7 days per week. Go on, what are you waiting for

Am sure yogagirl will give us more info!

I think acquacise is better for me??

I remember years ago as a size 10, doing yoga, standing on my head and doing the Lotus position. Wish I had kept it up, because I have put so much weight on and am unfit apart from walking a little, the friends that stuck at it are so supple still whilst I struggle now and they look good.

if I tried yoga I would be calling the emergency services because I'd be stuck on the floor!! ???

Hi rhinestone can never remember time difference but morning anyway??

So glad you had a holiday day without thinking of your ur sadness great progress.

There was comers too. For 100 years since navy battle here but not holiday.

Dear husband had rare night out and I was ok til started think of ed then I forced myself to stop and I texted couple friends instead! Progress also.
Realise am lucky to have such good friends and wonderful husband was first evening alone since finding out,about,ed illness.

Wet and cold here and horrid??my lovley plants getting battered and still got lot more put in and rest runner beans it won't be today.

My closest friends club meeting this afternoon ?
happy Wednesday all

Ps I would love do yoga for relaxation but don't think knees could cope yogsgirl ?

I actually had a wonderful Memorial Day yesterday. Went to a parade that my DG was in and after that went boating on our pontoon. I was so relaxed I fell asleep. This is the first holiday in over a year that I didn't wonder what the estranged sons were doing and GC. Maybe I am making some progress.
YOGAGIRL glad you had a good weekend too and please stay with us. Everytime I see your name I laugh about the time I actually took my first yoga class and I was in the wrong one. They were jumping all up and down from the mat and I couldn't get my stomach and my girls off of it at all. I was the flunky in the class. LOL
Celebgran, WendySue, and Jenty thanks for being here too.

????????welcome back Yogagirl you are needed here!

Wouldn't be the same without you.

So glad you had,good weekend,

We did too not that relaxing. Apart from Chinese with friends and drinks last night,as we frantically tried to tidy garden and set plants.

Dear husband out tonight very,rare so ready lasagne and cauliflower cheese moth green beans lazy meal and hope do relaxation cd.

I am slow yogagirl taken me 7 years to stop beating head against brick wall but I got there??

Amazing news well done Smilless busy busy,time coming up for you.

Social week for me lady who lunches thurs and fri with old friends and sat 60th party so good week?

Well, Jenty, I guess, I'll just have to be careful to use the Preview button first, LOL! Forgot about that!

You're welcome, Yoga! And glad you're back in here! Glad you had such a good weekend, also!

Ucan

Morning all

I've come back on, as after all the good wishes from you all, I felt like I was abandoning ship & felt I need to stay on, albeit more reservedly, to offer my continued support. So, many thanks to Celebgran Smileless Jenty Fairydoll & Rhinestone Wendysue

Thanks for your very interesting posts Nina and understand why you need to say goodbye

Pages back, a one-off poster wrote about how it took her 4yrs to move on finally, so thanks for sharing with us I think I'm beginning to get to that same place.

Yes Celebgran it is interesting to hear from AC that have done to their mothers, what's been done to us, to hear the other side, and I was really interested....at first!

Smileless congratulations on your house sale and subsequent buy

I had a lovely weekend, even though I did lot's of classes and cover classes, very busy with that, but also on Friday went out for the afternoon to visit a friend in their new home by the river & countryside, so lovely we spent the rest of the afternoon walking around and the folk there were sooo friendly, inviting us in to view their homes and roof gardens with far reaching views over the river & countryside. We then went onto a lovely restaurant by the river for our evening meal, with swans swimming by
Yesterday, after my two classes, I & my ND & baby GD went into London, no, not to visited the Queen but to visit my prev. sister.i.l, prev. f.i.l & partners,and had a great family get-to-gether.

thankyou Wendy.. ☺️

no theres no edit button once you click send thats it your done for ..??

Oops! This unfinished sentence was in my post by error:

"However, the thread does say "family members..."

Sorry. Is there any reason we don't have an edit button here?

Jenty, that's a beautiful post!

Smileless really pleased to hear youve sold the house...a new move a new beginning new memories.. xx

we all have strength and determination it just takes some a bit longer to dig deep enough to find it within ourselves...it is there I assure you...my son once said to me that he is amazed at how much strength I have and when ever he hits a hurdle in his life it gives him the strength to fight it...?

so pleased to hear that Nina has made progress after coming onto this thread where the door is always open to those who have been cut out of their ac and gc lives...

celebgran moan away lol we all need to vent when things get on top of us....one thing for sure is that when we all go to the grave we know we always loved our children despite what they have thrown at us over the years and weve never closed the door on them ...