Adult children

Hi everyone, sorry to have been away for the lovely Gransnet for ages but life gets in the way sometimes! And this is a long post

I've posted in the past about DD2 but a quick recap to understand the problem: My ex and I divorced a few years ago after 30 years marriage when he admitted he was gay. When our two girls were children DD1 was his favourite and he made life difficult for DD2 which left her feeling very anxious and with mental ill health as a direct result of his behaviour. I tried to make up for this and she and I remain close as I feel she still needs support even though she is 30.

She lives in my home which is fine because I share my new partner's home and am not around much. She couldn't afford to house share with people of her own age until quite recently as her salary was so low but now she has begun to look for alternative accommodation. She works long unsociable hours as she is a journalist on a daily newspaper so has restricted times when she can view places and as a result I'm not sure how active she is in looking tbh.

The problem I am facing is that her mental health is unstable. She has weekly visits to her therapist, which helps, as well as some anti depressant meds but I know she remains very anxious and fears any rejection at all (from being rejected as a child by her father).

As i am now in my late 60s i decided to make my Will and talk to her about arrangements which obv distressed her but she understood why i did this. She is very worried abotu me dying, becoming ill even though late 60s is not considered particularly old, but with favourite rock stars and actors dying recently I wanted to prepare her. instead I think I've probably freaked her out and added to her feelings of anxiety.

I now have someone who would like to rent DD2's room which would help me financially (as DD2 pays less rent than market rate) but I don't want DD2 to feel rejected because someone else will be living in what was her room.

DD2 is not especially close to her older sister who is married with her own family and although i do believe it would be a good step forward for her to live with other people I am concerned about the effect on her mental health.

Just wondered if any other Gransnetters have similar situations with adult children who have poor mental health? Any advice o wise ones?

Thanks for reading.