Surely by now we should all know better ? a M.I.5 spy would not tell you his profession, A Turkish or Goan 21 year old does not fall in love with an 60 year old British lady and American General Shouldnt need £300 from you.It's like letters informing you that you have have won £20,000 and you just need to send a £100 admin fee to the Gongo to have it put into your bank account. It's pie in the sky

MOnica you are so right, I too could not believe so many intelligent women would surrender their savings to men they had not met.
Well done to the OP for not being taken in.

This thread has a misleading title the OP did not fall for a romance scan. She acted like a normal sensible woman and had ended the 'romance' before money was asked for and ran for help when the request was made after she had backed out.

Normal women do not fall for these scams. Every scam story I have read, even when the woman concerned is a 'high-flying professional' she is also a woman with a desperate emotional need to have a man in their life at all costs and are the type who quickly fall for a pretty face and a good line in smooth charm. the majority of women, whether dating online or not, are like the OP, sensible cautious and recognise a rat when they see one.

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I think the words you might be looking for involve "internet" and "troll"

It sounds as if you were suitably on your guard about this guy from the start. Not all people are.
The "died in a terrible car crash" would have made me rather suspicous from the start. But then I am a rather suspicious person.

Have you noticed the dates on these 2 post DaphneBroon. What makes a person post a month after the last post and at 04:23 in the morning. I love a good mystery.

I think he/she has gone gononsuch

hillsbird

Please repeat what you said at 04:23, no hurry, when you get up will do.

always go in their car

I don't think so...

If you really want to find out about them, make sure they pay, never meet inside, always go in their car, ( they can't use" I was drunk as a excuse then").

That way you should have a lovely time

Well done for not falling for the scam and very well done for sharing. I think most of us, at our most vulnerable, could be taken in even if for a short while. I hope your next post contains fun and laughter and a positive spin on dating sites.Go girl.

There are predators in the real world as well as online. You have to use your common sense. If they're too good to be true then they probably are.

That said, my DH was perfect and it was love at first sight

You're right, Janea. I hadn't noticed that.

A colleague of mine met several men online, but one in particular seemed to be her ideal companion. After a few weeks, she realised, thank goodness, that he was much more interested in her young teenage children than he was in her.There are some dangerous predators out there.

This is a sad story but..... hasn't there been several tv programs and newspaper articles warning people of this scam ? Quite honestly the moment money was mentioned I'd head for the hills. The warning bell would have been ringing very loud indeed.

I've no experience of dating sites, but I have noticed that whenever I use Skype (not often) I get a lot of contact requests from US generals. (Are there no lonely squaddies in the US army, just the generals?) They get deleted at once.

I think it is because I had to add a number to my username, and used my birth year,, minus the 19-- . If that number were my age, I would be an attractive commodity, but if they knew my real age they would be less impressed.

Hmmmm.

Am I the only one who noticed this in the OP?
I was expecting to write about my online dating journey in an upbeat and humorous way, telling of the hilarious profiles and strange encounters with other humans
I'm sorry, but it sounds as though Isobel's intention when going on the dating site was not to meet someone to form a relationship with, but to exploit possibly vulnerable men for the purposes of writing an amusing blog.
I wonder what the collective Gransnet opinion would have been of a man who did that.

A fool and their money are soon parted. if individuals, particularly our friends, choose not to see what is blindingly obvious to any one else, then they have only themselves to blame if it all turns nasty.

Yes, there are millionaires who choose to rent, but if they do, even the discreet ones, which this man claims to be, will rent a high end property, probably serviced, which will give him the comfort and luxury such people require. Any luxury block of flats comes cloaked in anonymity, nobody knows their neighbours. They most emphatically do not rent 'rooms'

The problem with my friend is that she is very gullible and she so wants to believe that this man is the millionaire he (contrary to appearances) claims to be, She says he likes to keep a low profile - he doesn't even own a house but rents a room while he is looking for a suitable mansion. For some reason every time he is just about to close the deal on yet another £20 million pound house it falls through. I just don't know what his end game is as she has some money, but not a great deal and he has given her some money over the last year. Hence part of me thinks more Walter Mitty than conman.

I joined a site for over 50s (not a dating site), and after a couple of weeks received messages from someone who had read my profile. He said, in very poor English, that he thought I was a wonderful person and would like my email address so we could keep in touch. I told him I thought he was a scammer and reported him to the site moderators who deleted his account. My mistake was that I had put in my profile that I was a widow - I have since removed that information.

My daughter's friend met a man on a dating site, and after corresponding by text for a while, they decided to meet up. He was very charming, buying her flowers, chocolates, taking her for meals etc., but after only a short time, he started being very possessive with her and when he wasn't with her, he was texting her constantly.
After a couple of months, he was talking about moving in with her with his son (she has two small daughters too) but she told him that she thought it was too soon, and that they should take it a bit slower (she told my daughter that she really wanted to end the relationship with him because he was so possessive and jealous, but didn't want to hurt his feelings). Anyway after this he started sending her abusive texts which she tried to ignore, but they became more and more abusive, even threatening to harm her girls, so she went to the Police (he was actually a policeman himself) to get a restraining order. He has now been charged with several offences, and is due to appear in court next month.

I met my lovely husband on an internet dating site, but not before coming across a lot of "drop-kicks". In fact I had decided to go off the site but saw the picture of my husband and thought, "One last try". I'm so glad I did - we've been married for four years now and have been together for seven.

I do agree, you have to be very careful and if you have the slightest doubt it's best to back off.

Morghew70, if I were you, I would keep on saying something from time to time.
Some people eventually come to their senses if they are told something often enough. Drip drip works eventually in a lot of cases.