My daughter had my first granddaughter out of wedlock and I was VERY involved in her raising. (Maybe too involved) When my granddaughter was almost 1, my daughter met her now husband and they got pregnant and then married. My granddaughter begs and cries to live with me, never wants to go home, has told me she is very sad, she does not feel loved or safe by her dad (he has adopted her). My son in law is a big child, a bully, I have caught him pushing her for no reason, anytime she is having fun he makes her sit down and then tells my daughter some made up offense as to why she needs a time out. My granddaughter is 6, she is my world and my heart breaks for her. My daughter tells me she only acts like that because I feel sorry for her, and I agree some that she lets ME know how she feels because I listen, I care, and I do feel sorry. I dont know what to do. My daughter knows that her husband is a jerk, but she hates fighting with him, so I dont know if she is really in denial or if its just too much trouble for her to protect her daughter. It makes me so angry that with all the things in the world I pray my grandbabies are protected from, their father is on top of the list. I need help, I dont know what to do. He never leaves bruises, but I can see her getting hurt on the inside where no one sees, and I know how it will affect her later especially since he is not her biological father. My daughter feels like I say something because I never want her to get in trouble, I just want to spoil her, and she does not take what I say seriously. I dont want her spoiled or not disciplined, but I do want her to feel safe, loved, and believed. What do I do??
