Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the way to go when you have tried everything else.

Theirs rather a good book for the kindle on Amazon, If you can read that you will be able to come onto this forum and take the piss with ease.

Might I just say that you're almost over the shock, because you're thinking of other things.

I am over the shock but I just can't believe we will never be together again.

I have awful things going through my mind, I can even get upset about the fact we will not be buried together. We were together since I was 13. I just cannot accept he has left me for somebody else.

Do you know the name of the book on Amazon please?

Future Learn has a free course. Some of my friends have done it and say it is very good www.futurelearn.com/courses/mindfulness-wellbeing-performance

Sorry to be so blunt but its called mindfulness

I do mindfulness meditation at a Buddhist group, although am not a Buddhist. I think it is good to learn in a group as you gain the support of other group members. I have found it helpful and think am a calmer person, but I have been going for two years. You may find a group in your area - there's no need to embrace the whole Buddhist philosophy. There are secular courses too in some areas, it's the trendy thing at the moment.

My sister went through really bad time two years ago.
She was recommended mindful classes by bereavement counselor.
She attended and still does attend weekly classes at a Buddhist retreat.

I think that she would agree with everything "Lazigirl* has said.

Her life is much calmer and happier now.
She is now able to make plans and embrace new hobbies such as walking and arranging Mini Music festivals
All this is a far cry from where she was 2 years ago.

And I have a happy sister back

I also go to a mindfulness mediation group once a week, and come out walking on air! However I find it's helpful to relax and switch off every day for around half an hour whilst at home, in the garden or anywhere peaceful. So the answer to the OP question for me is that I found mindfulness within myself

I can recommend this book and CD on mindfulness and depression

The Mindful Way Through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness

I started mindfulness a couple of years ago when my IAPT counsellor arranged for me to go on a 12 week course run by my local IAPT service.

I find Mindfulness very helpful to relax me and help,with sleep,disturbance, also at any time I am particularly anxious. I would recommend just about anything by Mark Williams and/or Jon Kabat Zinn. There are many free resources available on the Internet. It isn't something to rush and I would recommend getting exercises to listen to, lots available for no cost on the internet but also to purchase if you want to progress further. A class can help with motivation and can really help in the beginning. There are NHS short courses in many areas. It's worth a try, I always think it can do no harm. Just one thing though, if you find its not for you then don't blame yourself, we are all individuals and it is a different approach that is good for many but not for all.

THank you everybody

I'm on the Future Learn mindfulness course which is free. I found it very helpful and the six weeks of course went very quickly!

Thanks for that link Trisher, have signed up for the next course.

I should do that. Lots of the people in my Tai Chi class did it when it last ran, they said it was very good. It's one of those things I keep putting off.

Just signed up as well

Coming up to three years of widowhood, hope to start a course end of July, hoping it helps.

I signed up as well