Good Neighbours

Actually it's the fault of the delivery company as they should make it clear that they are asking you to take in someone else's package. Mine usually ask my name and then check it's the same one as on the label.

Presumably. The package was delivered by mistake Ruby so a notice would not help.This has happened to me several times. If something is delivered to our house we assume it is for us.I think you were unlucky. Our neighbour just laughs.Take it round and just leave it on the door step next time.

I would not have been happy if you had opened one of my parcels Ruby especially a second time.

So unless you want to fall out with him I'd suggest you leave things as they are BUT I never take any parcels round to neighbours, it's up to them to call for it and there is a card left at their house to tell them where it is.

I accidentally opened a package which had come to my house but was for my neighbour, the second time I had done this, but I do get a lot through the post and assumed it was mine. I took it round yesterday, apologised for my mistake, only to be snarled at by the guy and the door slammed in my face! I have ordered a sign telling the delivery people that I will not take in post for him anymore which I am planning on putting on my front door or side of door. Is this a wise move or should I just tell postlady/man when they come? I don't want to take another in for him without realising it.

I think they also need reporting to the RSPCA about chaining a dog up , do they ever walk it ? I would bide your time although I had a bit of difficulty understanding exactly who did what . These things tend to sort themselves out if you don`t add fuel to the fire . Good luck x

I do not think age comes into it. Neighbours of the kind you have causing all this trouble are selfish bullies who will try and get even with anyone who opposes them.

You are not the first person to have problems in this kind of situation and you will not be the last, which is no consolation at all in your current situation.

I would have alerted the police to the situation without telling anybody. Hopefully your name would not come out. If they are dealing drugs it needs to be stopped, not just moved on.

Totally agree with the last three posts by Elegran Anya and Luckygirl
It is a nightmare having bad relationships with neighbours and so you need to establish happier and better communications with the young family next door who asked for your help. They were clearly frightened! (I would have been too! )
Hope the people next door but one go away very soon and that the next tenants are really nice!

I think it is understandable that your closest neighbours said what they did - they are nearest to the firing line and they are probably afraid - any family with a chained Rottweiler is bad news.

It would be worth retaining good relationships with these immediate neighbours as a priority - you may have to get along with them for many years after the problem family have moved on. I can of course understand your annoyance at this and am sorry that your life is being burdened with these problems.

I'd talk to your good neighbours and explain how you feel. I too suspect they just chickened out and probably feel bad about it. Get together and present a united front to the landlord.

Are all these three properties rented? And if so do you all have different landlords?

Have I got this right? You phoned the owner of the house next door but one, with your concerns about their tenants, after your next-door neighbour asked you to support them in THEIR complaints. Then next door told them next but one that YOU were the ones who were complaining.

And you are now annoyed at next door for putting you on the spot. You helped them, and they put the blame on you, so you are getting the flak from the ones who are having to move?

They weren't very grateful, were they? Perhaps the others were too intimidating, and they chickened out of admitting it was them. But you do have to live next door to them, so it would be a mistake to fall out with them. After the others have moved on, say to next door how glad you are that they are gone, but you do wish your life hadn't been made worse by being identified as the one who stuck your neck out - on their behalf. Don't say it as a complaint, just as a comment in passing, and then get on with staying friendly with them.

I do hope you don't get anyone even worse in the house next but one!

I don't understand why your immediate neighbours (the ones you were on good terms with) have turned against you as you supported them by complaining to the agent. Are they perhaps being targeted by the bad neighbours and think you are the ones who told them you complained? Good neighbours are a real gift and in your position I think I would either pop round or invite them in for a coffee and get to the bottom of why they are no longer friendly towards you. Hopefully the bad neighbours will soon move on and things can get back to normal.

There was a family like this in the village I have just moved from - not because of that I hasten to say! We dubbed them "The Borrowers." It all settled down in the end - not sure how or why as it was up the other end of the village.

We also had a drugs bust with armed police at another house! They were dealing drugs and growing cannabis and the guy was taken away in handcuffs.

And it is the sleepiest out of the way village you can possibly imagine!

I am sorry that you are having these troubles - with any luck they will move away. Every man for himself seems to be the rule in this situation - which is not at all satisfactory. In do hope that things improve soon.

I have seen this situation before when I was a SW - one landlord of a house on a very nice cul-de-sac in town let a property on behalf of a family who had to go abroad for a couple of years as the husband was an army man. The family who was put in there were truly the family from hell - one of them was a convicted arsonist! - and it caused no end of trouble.

I have my fingers crossed that these people will move away and that you are able to mend the relationship with you immediate neighbours.