Cheated on at 68

Don't walk away - RUN as fast as your legs will carry you. A cheat is a cheat at whatever age. And my experience has shown that these OLD men want to be like the young guys ..... Sha**ing literally anyone who makes themselves available. His Viagra bill must cost him a fortune ...

Times have certainly changed with many reports of the increase in STDs in the older population. A visit to the clinic is a must!!

Sorry to be negative ?

I would invest my time and energy into women friends .....

In that situation I would never trust him again. I would be constantly wondering what he was up to when apart. At his age he should understand loyalty and honesty. I would have to say "on yer bike".

Agree with Teddy123 once a cheat always a cheat! You deserve better and there's someone better out there, in the meantime enjoy yourself with your women friends.

Yes, some good advice there, Mrs Trellis (PLEASE tell us you come from North Wales!) The fact is, you don't have to DO anything. Sit tight. Bathe your wounds. I hope he's kicking himself. You have the power, the upper hand. Do you have clothes etc at his place? [I send you flowers, but don't know how to do it!]

I would personally give him the boot - I couldn't cope with wondering if he was being faithful.

I have been on my own for over 3 years since DH died, no man around although I do have male friends,not sure I actually want a man although I enjoy male company, certainly would not move in with a man or get married again.

As others have said get out there & socialise, enjoy life

Swanny 'I told her I didn't fancy the milkman or the coalman so would have to go out'.

Definitely agree with the posters saying run don't give him any leeway at all chances are this isn't the first or last time but you were the one looking after him after surgery etc nah not worth, never be trust worthy now he's cooked his goose Kick him to the kerb but don't go out looking for someone to take his place that could be equally disasterous just have some fun doing your own thing with friends
good luck Mrs T

Your title says it all really, you were cheated on. You have the proof and who knows how many other times he's cheated? Apart from the health aspect of him sleeping with another woman,you can no longer trust him, and that's not a great foundation for the relationship to continue.

Don't allow your fear of being alone to make the decision for you. You are a lovely caring person, who took care of him when he needed looking after and this is how he repays you. You have your pride and he has treated you with gross disrespect. You deserve better.

Keep walking towards the exit.

Have not got anything fresh to add to all these wise words, but from personal experience I would say that broken trust, like broken glass can never be properly repaired. You have been decent and honourable, but he hasn't. Run for the hills dear lady.

nanaK54, what is LTB ? THANK YOU

grannypiper LTB in Mumsnet is short for "leave the bastard".

Get shut! ....you sound like you deserve much better.

I think I am going against the trend, but perhaps you could consider how much you enjoyed his company and the good times you had together. I personally would try being 'terribly terribly hurt', and get him really upset about how you feel. Then give him your conditions for remaining friends. Don't throw away a good friendship just for a moment's madness on his part - life's too short for that and you might stay without that companionship for ages before you find someone you really like again.

He cheated on you. If you forgive will he do it again? Probably!

Move on..you are worth more than this. Enjoy your life without him.

collgirl who would fall for the "a moment's madness" story? I bet it was all planned.

He is a cheat - and a liar.

Mrs trellis must decide whether she can live with that knowledge.

Collgirl1. Yep you defenitely went against the trend suggesting that Mrs Trellis should TRY behaving ALL UPSET

I expect she won't have to 'try' as clearly she's very upset.

Who at the age of 68 would want to play 'games' pretending this and that. She's not a teenager!

Sorry to be so blunt ..... But really!

Dump the b*****d . You're worth more

Yes Teddy 123 and Nana58 are exactly right. Value yourself.

Agree with nanna58 you will be glad you got rid of him in a few months time.even though you don't feel like that now.
I come from north Wales shysal.

Being cheated on is soul destroying. Who needs it? From experience I know you will never trust again. You won't respect someone who doesn't respect YOU enough to keep it in his pants. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Thank you so much to all you lovely ladies who took the time to reply. I appreciate your advice. And to those who asked, no I'm not from North Wales, just a massive fan of I'm sorry I haven't a clue X

Hi a bit late on the response but to say only you know if you can rebuild the trust, if the relationship was deep and good enough to want to repair it and if you can be bothered.

I am sure you can seek and find a new partner but if it is just for the sake of 'having a partner' regardless of whether you care strongly about them I personally could not be bothered with the effort!

If it were me I would start building up "non-partner potential" contacts and friends and getting on with life as a singleton. A new partner might turn up or things may heal with current chap, either way make sure you are the one calling the shots!

You will never trust him gain - end the relationship asap.
From one 68 year old to another

Too easy to dump and then regret. However gorgeous you are at 68, to find the right man is going to get more and more difficult. Loads of men are flawed by the time they reach the sixties, and it is a real pity for a moment of madness to kill off a lovely relationship.

I agree with those who advise you to LTB. Mumsnet speak may be less than polite but it cuts through the waffle.
You deserve better.