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Husband not invited to a friend's birthday party

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Nelliemoser Sat 12-Nov-16 11:27:31

Just go Gal. From what you already said you have no real social life with him.
Just tell him you are out at a party, you don't have to go into anymore detail unless he asks.

You say he is a bit of bully which might be why he is not asked. Is he actually likely to ask you for details?

Good luck!

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Lisalou Sat 12-Nov-16 10:46:49

I dont know, I agree with Mumsy, you both lead independent lives, but on the other hand, is it worth "rocking the boat"? Will you have to hear how he feels about it for weeks on end? He doesnt sound like a nice person, so I would not be worried about his feelings, but will he take it out on you? You have to live with him, after all.
But then, if he is friends with some of your friends, is he likely to find out the truth? If that is the case, i would tell him. Better that he hears it from you, than from someone else.

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Ana Sat 12-Nov-16 10:46:03

Do you have to tell him exactly where you're going/what you're doing anyway?

If he asks, I wouldn't tell him the reason why he's not been invited, that would be rather cruel.

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Mumsy Sat 12-Nov-16 10:33:37

Speak up, he has his life and you have yours.

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cangran Sat 12-Nov-16 10:18:44

My husband and I don't have a social life together apart from family occasions. It has not been a happy marriage but we've stayed together for practical reasons. He spends all his time on his 'serious causes' whilst I have developed a good network of women friends that I enjoy socialising with. But now, for the first time, I have been invited to a birthday party (a friend's husband's that my husband and I both know) and my husband isn't invited (this man has said he only wants people he likes at his party!).

I will go to the party on my own but am not sure if I should tell my husband that it's a special birthday party, or a white lie, i.e. that my friend is having a little pre-Christmas social for female friends.

For the last few years I have dealt with my situation for the most part by not rocking the boat as I can't stand the stress of confrontations with a bit of a bully any more but part of me thinks that it would be cowardly not to tell him the truth. Thoughts?

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