Suicide and the aftermath.....please be kind, we are all suffering

Candlefran they may have well have been renting.
I have great empathy with you in regards to sharing your home I have had to do this twice for my D and two GS's one of which has ASD and am currently in the same situation. The need for your 'own space' is understandable. My situation does not compare to your family's though.
and ((hugs)) for you all.

Lots of hugs and thoughts bytheway. You have coped so far and things will get better. Just take a day at a time. So lovely you and your DH can be there in her hour of need. Be as loving and patient as you can . Hopefully it will give you all stronger bonds as you go into the future.

This is awful for everyone, you couldn't do anything other than house her at least till after the funeral. She may then be in a place to think more clearly about her future. She will no doubt want to move on as others have said. Keep yourself together by thinking that this is a temporary solution, she wont want to live with you for evermore. She will gradually want to get her life back together. It wont be easy, but you are doing the right thing.

I'm so sorry to learn of this, how appalling for everyone. Are there any charities who can guide you through this, do Samaritans, for instance have any support groups? Or can you turn to your local religious ministers?

Again, I'm so sorry.

I wonder if she is in a position to sell the house they were living on and get something else. Perhaps somewhere closer to you. I can understand only too well about her not wanting to go back to that house, but given time she will surely want to move on. But great patience could well be called for from you. I do feel for you all.

Hugs to all of you left behind.

What an awful situation to be in, for all of you! Certainly hugs from me.
It's early days yet, but hopefully she'll be able to find accommodation for herself and the children eventually, near you.
When we came back from Singapore, ages ago, we moved in with my parents, until we found a place of our own. I expect they were relieved when we left (3 children). I couldn't have stayed much longer either, and I got on well with my parents.
Bon courage - you'll need it.
You need to get her Dad in action to move things on - does he go to work?

So sorry for this awful situation bytheway and here is a big }}}HUG{{ to try and ease your anguish. After the funeral you can go back to work and that will make things better for you as you won't be all under each others feet. You and your H are being very kind and helping in a great time of sorrow and uncertainty. I'm sure your stepd will be pleased to move on to her own home asap and then when you look back you will be so pleased to have helped her out in her greatest hour of need. Keep strong