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Gift Receiving Etiquette

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mumofmadboys Tue 13-Dec-16 16:27:29

I once signed a cheque for Dynarod without my glasses on. Unknown to me it was my son's chequebook!! He had £170 taken from his account and queried it as he never writes cheques. The bank sent him a copy with my signature of course . We have totally different initials so obviously no- one checked it at all! P S I paid him back!!

rosesarered Tue 13-Dec-16 16:19:06

Her mistake, not signing, she had intended it as a gift, so your DH was right to point it out and get it signed.

Jayanna9040 Tue 13-Dec-16 16:17:21

Think he was just sensible. I once bought a car from a friend for £500 and forgot to sign the cheque. I was glad they phoned and said. Could have been the end of a beautiful friendship if they thought I had done it on purpose!

kooklafan Tue 13-Dec-16 16:12:35

yes, perhaps the term 'lowering myself' wasn't quite the way to say it ...

I just felt that going and asking the sender to sign the cheque was akin to scrounging and I also felt that if it was a deliberate omission that it would look equally bad on our part?

Very difficult thing to deal with in any case smile

Elegran Tue 13-Dec-16 16:07:49

You say a banker's cheque, as though it is not one on a personal account? If that is so, perhaps the sender is not accustomed to using cheques and is not aware that an unsigned cheque is worth precisely nothing.

She was probably mortified at having made the mistake, but I really don't see that you should have felt embarrassed and "lowering yourself" in reminding her. She'd have felt even worse if she found out later that you had rejected the gift, and why. If she had invited you to a meal her but forgotten to give you her address you would have asked her for it wouldn't you?

Good for DH for being sensible and treating it so calmly.

Ana Tue 13-Dec-16 15:59:39

Too right I'd make sure I got whoever it was to sign it - it was either a case of genuine oversight or one of deliberate omission, guessing that you wouldn't pursue the matter.

Well done to your DH (although I hope he was tactful about it!)

kooklafan Tue 13-Dec-16 15:55:33

What is the proper etiquette if you receive a bankers cheque as a gift but the sender hasn't signed it?

This happened to me a couple of years ago and where I would just have torn it up, not lowering myself to go and ask the sender to sign it, DH drove over to the family members house and got them to sign it to which I felt extremely embarrassed.

I'm just interested in what you would do when confronted with the same problem?

Hugs KF