This is the strangest post ever.
For whatever reasons, you appear to be estranged from this side of your 'family', your OH is ok with this situation and yet you explain he has a strong sense of 'family'. Your OH doesn't leave home etc. You don't think your in laws like you. And so it goes on.
I feel you're trapped in a terribly sad situation and yet you seem to be concerned about gifts which frankly seems to be the least of your problems.
I would make a New Years resolution to speak to your Gp to see if he can organise some family counselling for you and your husband.
I'm sure other posters might think I'm being overly harsh .... But truly this has got to be the most worrying post I've ever read
I hope you find the strength to turn your life around so that you can live in harmony with your family ...
Pre Warning re Tonight’s Eastenders
Canard islanders tell Brits to go home.
Shortage of drugs exacerbated by Brexit!
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic