I've just spent several days in bed with a really bad dose of flu and as a result, I've spent some time online reading up on thoughts about relationships, in particular family rifts and estrangement. It seems to fall into two camps, one is the very unpleasant, serious abuse and the other, petty rifts and disputes.
The thing that amazes me though is the new age terminology bandied about especially by adult children who are diagnosing their parents and then posting online that they are narcissists mostly with a bit of bipolar here and borderline personality disorder there, etc, etc.
Unless they are qualified professionals, really, it just seems sad that a family member or members, have got a major communication issue going on yet they're written off and then labelled a narcissist. It's clear that this trend is encouraging others to follow suit.
I had a sad life with my parents, it never got resolved. They were just who they were and looking back, even though it wasn't good, at least I escaped and made my own way. Despite all, I could never openly trash my parents on a forum and blame them for everything. Makes sad reading really.
Nina x
