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Now retired, my husband wants us to travel - I will miss Grandchildren!

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Minalta Mon 23-Jan-17 00:20:52

We are just retired and my husband wants to go away for 3-4 months to Mexico (as we always dreamed of doing when we retired). But now that the time has come I find it difficult to be away from Grand-daughter (will be 3) and Grand-son (will be 7 months). My husband thinks i am being unreasonable, but i am heart broken.
I am just wondering if other grandmas feel like I do. My daughter (single child) and I are very close and we help out with baby a lot. She says she understands, that we are retired now and of course we would want to travel. But i can't help feeling guilty for leaving her with a baby and 3 year old and i am not around to help when they need it (like daycare backup when they are sick for example) or to give them a date-night. I will also miss them terribly, and all the "firsts" with new grand baby. I know i can FaceTime/skype but it isn't the same.
Any other grandmas face this??

Dandibelle Thu 02-Feb-17 09:37:11

All depends on how emotionally attached you are. The longest I did it for was 3 weeks and even the last week I couldn't think of anything else. Couldn't have done 3 months.
Didn't matter what anyone else said to me. Thankfully my husband understands

Lewlew Wed 01-Feb-17 19:42:25

Know what you mean, Jane10 Some lovely ideas on another thread, but my holiday money will go elsewhere, not to my country of birth until that nutjob is gone! Helloooo Canada!

Oh... and on a money thread, I had a mini-rant about Premium Bonds. We never seemed to hardly any cheques. The PB fairy does not seem to fly my way with her prizes. I also don't fancy lending the UK govt my money anymore for such rubbish interest. confused

Jane10 Wed 01-Feb-17 08:09:10

These river cruises look lovely but I'm afraid that America is off our list of places to be right now. We'd get in OK but I don't want to give that country a single dollar!!

Araabra Tue 31-Jan-17 18:52:55

Brilliant River Boat trips in America on the Mississippi river.

Izabella Tue 31-Jan-17 17:13:03

Agree. Via Rail is excellent. I stopped off in Winnipeg ( the museum of human rights is a MUST see) and went up into Churchill for the polar bears. Then carried on back to Winnipeg and complete journey through to Seattle. The Starlight express is also good from Seattle to LA although I would most definately NOT recommend Union Station in LA for lone female travellers at night (long story but it involved myself, a hooker, assorted weird males and two police Lts plus reinforcements. Oh I could write a book about my travels.

The train from Boston through to the Berkshires is wonderful in the fall and beats driving. The trees look magnificent.

Jane10 Tue 31-Jan-17 15:59:56

Good language skills Jalima!

Jalima Tue 31-Jan-17 13:38:56

What a talented lot we are!
And for a trip on The Ghan:
Good onya mate - sweet as

Maggiemaybe Tue 31-Jan-17 13:18:41

But as for that Russian trip, это может быть возможным

I'm pretty sure that's not right, but my mate google says it is grin

Jalima Tue 31-Jan-17 12:53:15

you do need a bit of dexterity
That's out then hmm
French in Canada MawBroon wink
Ce n'est pas possible!

MawBroon Tue 31-Jan-17 10:53:32

Todo es posible Jalima!

Maggiemaybe Tue 31-Jan-17 09:20:44

Best not to drink too much before turning in wink

Maggiemaybe Tue 31-Jan-17 09:19:45

I can recommend Via Rail across Canada, Jamila. We travelled from Toronto to Vancouver in a sleeper. I think we were on it three nights. Very comfortable, and really atmospheric lying in your little bunk and hearing the clunkety clunk and the train whistles from far across the lonely prairie (not sure that they are prairies actually, but it sounds right!). You do need a bit of dexterity to climb along the side of the beds and swing into your little toilet area at night though....

Maggiemaybe Tue 31-Jan-17 00:37:45

Maybe, Izabella, and it may be more affordable! We spent a month in Leningrad way back in 1973, so it would be interesting to see how it has changed. And I'd like to see Moscow.

Jalima Mon 30-Jan-17 19:57:32

I was wondering about a train journey but DH is not so keen
Nor is my back

Izabella Mon 30-Jan-17 19:35:15

Sorry St Petersberg

Izabella Mon 30-Jan-17 19:34:51

You may find Moscow to Lemingrad more interesting from a train window.

Maggiemaybe Mon 30-Jan-17 00:15:14

I have just wasted spent the whole evening googling blooming holidays and daydreaming - I blame this thread. I have upgraded my idea of the ideal holiday and would like to go on the Trans-Siberian Railway, first class all the way (definitely not in the third class compartment with the sour-faced babushka presiding over the toilets and samovar and the dire warnings about sniffing the food carefully before you taste it). All I need now are the winning 6 numbers for Wednesday's lotto draw grin

We did get our money back, Jalima, plus a £150 voucher towards a holiday this year, but I think I'm still some way short of my train fare.

Jalima Sun 29-Jan-17 23:46:56

Es una estafa?

MawBroon Sun 29-Jan-17 20:07:20

OP outlined a rather extreme scenario, 3-4 months in Mexico of all places ( unless maybe her DH is a retired brickie and sees a careeer opportunity hmm) and it has certainly aroused some strong feelings and comments.
When an OP doesn't come back after setting the proverbial cat among the pigeons I do sometimes wonder........ confused
Cynical, moi?

Jalima Sun 29-Jan-17 19:03:23

So - what just popped up at the top of the page?

Newcastle to Lanzarote - flight offers.
It would be a trek for us to get to Newcastle in the first instance!

Jalima Sun 29-Jan-17 19:01:59

That sounds very adventurous and exciting Maggiemb - try again, hope you got your money back shock

DH likes to chill for a week then go off and do something, although walking distances is off for both of us at the moment.

Maggiemaybe Sun 29-Jan-17 18:38:59

My ideal is a couple of weeks travelling round, then a week - at most - chilling out in a good hotel. Which is what we would have been doing in Mexico last Autumn, if our agent hadn't made a proper pig's ear of the flight arrangements and had to cancel us sad. We were doing the Inca trail in a small accompanied group, then going to Cancun.

I think this thread has made me want to try again smile Though maybe with a different company.

Jalima Sun 29-Jan-17 16:23:17

It was drizzling here and misty, now it is pelting down with rain.

I wouldn't mind a week or two stuck in a hotel compound (sounds quite nice for that long) but after that I would have itchy feet.

Leticia Sun 29-Jan-17 16:06:50

I think Mawbroon is right- all we need now is Minalta back to update.

Eloethan Sat 28-Jan-17 22:06:17

I enjoy hotels too but I'm not sure whether, on the grounds of it being unsafe outside the compound, I'd like to spend more than three weeks (at the most) stuck in the hotel and its grounds.