mother/daughter relationships.

I would think it could be stirring up a hornets's nest. As Teetime said, coffee, cake and ground rules should be enough. I think issues should be left alone unless they are enormous!

We've had daughters bounce back on an alarmingly regular basis - it hasn't been easy lots of the time but a sense of humour and lots of love go a long way to easing any problems. Also, for you, ranting on GN would be good.

Good luck!

I would echo Azie09s post. If she is only staying a few months it's likely that you wouldn't secure an appointment before your daughter had moved on anyway. I doubt most of mums of teenage girls haven't had some sort of issue with them at some time. You say that there are some "Underlying issues that we need to address" yet do not specify what these are, counselling undoubtedly has its value, however, this seems to be for a short term fix for a short term arrangement. I wish you and your daughter well.

Imo, those "underlying issues" could easily come to the surface and cause major drama if not addressed. Good for you and dd to be seeking counseling! I don't have any advice on how to proceed, but I'm wishing you both the best!

Could I ask what it is you are hoping to get out of the counselling? Is it because you and your daughter haven't lived together for a long time and, having previously had difficulties, you both want to set out "ground rules" in advance. If this is the case I'm sure, as teetime suggests, a good chat over coffee and cake might suffice. However, if it is something more serious, counselling may do the trick. I just worry as I've had counselling myself and obviously I went on my own. This gave me the opportunity to say how I saw things without someone else contradicting me (everyone sees things differently). Good luck

You can actually Google 'mother and daughter counselling' which might get you local resources that were specific. Relate do family and parental counselling as well as couples, they could be a good place to start.

The one thing that occurred to me is that counselling can bring a lot up, often more than you thought there would be. You know how serious the issues are between you and your daughter but it may be difficult to come home and be together if very uncomfortable feelings and differing points of view arise.

I had a difficult time with my oldest daughter when she was late teenage/early adult. She was seeing a counsellor at the time and some of the things that she was troubled by were difficult to deal with and required a deep breath, lots of patience and seeing things from her point of view - things that she was carrying resentment about but which we had done with the best of intentions or lack of awareness.

You only have to look at the estranged families thread to see how wrong things can go in even apparently happy families, so do be cautious. You might even consider going to separate counsellors. Don't feel you must jump for the first counsellor either, make sure you both like the person and feel comfortable with them and that they have reasonable qualifications.

Good luck and all the best for your time together, sounds wonderful to me!

Do you really need counselling or would a few meetings round the table with a lot of coffee and cake help you draw up the ground rules for sharing your house? That's what I would do I love my daughter to bits but she's a nightmare to live with - so messy!!

Try googling Family counselling to see if there is any thing specific in your area . xx

Sorry, I have no bright ideas about how to find the right sort of counsellor, but just wanted to say what a wise move on your daughter's part. So often inter-personal difficulties can be ignored on the surface but simmering away in the background which does nothing positive for the relationship. The fact that you're both willing to work on your relationship is encouraging - I hope it goes well and that you both reap the rewards in the future.