Estrangement / Cut off Mum

Excellent idea lucklylegs??

We were very stressed knock dh had in car last Monday didn't help sorted insurance now hopefully and I get so down being in pain all time especially now had stop naproxen,

At least tummy settled dh suggested cooling huge joint beef yesterday I really wasn't well enough and we had promised visit our elderly neibor who Rosie sits well it was. Massively overdone worst Yorkshire ever made mynback was so bad I was in tears as tried clean bedrooms dh hoovers i dust and clean. Bathrooms
It was an awful easter Monday!

He at works today hopemgo acquacsie at least can move in water but hope don't feel as ill as last week, tum settled bit with antibiotics,

How are rest of us on here?
Smilelss did pm youu hope things aren't too stressful,??
Yogagirl i too wish had gone to service,

Well next Easter is sorted. I have booked a holiday, far more than I usually pay, but just decided not doing what I have done this Easter whilst I am still able to get away. I will be with lots of others and there is entertainment, so I can get dressed up.

Thank you Celebregran for your kind words and thoughts. I went out yesterday for a two hour walk with friends, we had a drink afterwards and laughed, came back home and it just hits me, She's gone. I feel the sadness through me, like lettering in a stick of rock, but covered by this veneer of normality for the world to see. I read the comments from all those on this forum and identify and feel for their predicament and wish not for the first time their was a solution.
Hope you all enjoy the rest of Easter. I will be going for a bit of retail therapy.x?

Aagh luckylegs ??so sorry you feeling lonely!

I am Lucky we met friends for lunchtime drink and just Skyped our son not feeling great but nownfinally got antibiotics for tum so improving,

Hope tomorrow will be brighter for you x

Is there anything worse than a bank holiday, everything closed, when everyone seems to be with someone? I never get used to it. ? To all those missing someone.

Oh, I see, Yoga. Thanks for taking time to explain.

Happy Easter to you, too. I imagine the holiday is making you feel "sad & sort of angry." I know it must be harder around holiday time.

Happy Easter to everybody!

Hi Celebgran nice to hear you are feeling better. I'm feeling sad & sort of angry, it's been sooo long now since I saw them, to be cut off, no phone calls, emails, nothing Not allowed to know how they all are, it's just tragic & cruel. When I'm with my ND & GD I think to myself, I can cope, I'm ok but after just an hour of leaving, it disappears and I'm back to grieving again When will it end [?]

"Happy Easter All" I would go to church, but my classes don't allow, I've vowed that next year I will book Easter off and go to church, I'm missing not going.

Yes gagirl ?
Our hearts will always be broken over this there are now words,

I take delight in my adorable great niece and nephew and you have beautiful daughter and Grandaughter

I also have my wonderful son and to hear him say love you mum is priceless to me.

Our daughter must know how sad and hurt we are and how deeply it has affected my health and her dad but she doesn't care and we have to accept that.

Focus on good stuff yogagirl! Only way,

Yes Starlady As I said above this is where the estrangement all began; A big argument between my D& her nasty husband, whilst I & my niceD were on holiday [coincidence She stayed with me,..read above..;he kept the C & house.....He took her back & cut me, then the rest of the family, out!
4.5yrs of grieving & sorrow, especially now at Easter time
My whole story is on here, after posting for all these years, can't keep repeating it all.

Wait... Yoga, you mean sil has kicked estd out before? Along with the gc?

He hasn't kicked her out again yet but we are hoping, as bad as that sounds, as it will mean we will see her and my beloved GC again, after 4.5yrs

Petra only if his head is turned by another or if the brainwashing of my once beloved D lifts from her brain.
This is where my & the rest of the family being cut out began. I made the mistake of mediating to get them back together, it worked, but he then cut me out & then slower the rest of my D family. It was only after I was cut out I got to see the real s.i.l, but looking back we now realize he always wanted us gone, so he got his wish.

yogagirl You say that your daughters partner has kicked her out again does that mean there is hope for a reconciliation?

Thank you for all of your posts ladies..... I read all of them but I find it so hard to find the words about my own situation..... it is so overwhelmingly complicated and those of you who know me a little.... Only know the tip of the iceberg..... for you all..... You keep me going.... You really do xxxxx

Thanks starlady?

Northern soul what an achievement golden wedding ???many congratulations

Sorry I missed your original posts but gathered you been through tough time,

It's 40 years ruby wedding for us this year!

Congratulations Northernsoul

Thanks for your good wishes and yes,I've had plenty of cake! Oh,and a glass or two of champagne.

NSx

Well, I'm sure I don't know where wendysue is celebgran! Lol! Maybe she's busy with that forum you say she moderates. No idea.

I don't think you're a "fool" for doing all you did. You strike me as someone who gives her all for those she loves, whether her ac or her fil. Sad that ed doesn't appreciate that. Seems like ds does, thank goodness!

Northernsoul, congratulations on your Golden Wedding Anniversary!

got to have a cake!

Congratulations on your Golden Wedding anniversary Northernsoul [cake]

Thanks for your support Nina,Yogagirl,Smileless and others.

Feeling more like myself today.

These past weeks have been difficult as we celebrated our Golden Wedding and then Mothering Sunday all without being a complete family,but we celebrated nevertheless.

I know there is much to be thankful for and the weather today has been superb.
The blue tit is nesting in the camera bird box and the spring feeling of new life always gives me a lift .

Thinking of you Smileless and the difficult days ahead. I am sure you will be a great comfort and support to your dil and son.

Good wishes to you all.
NSx

Starlady if us are not wendysue then where is she?
I used to look at themaAmerican forum she moderates and realise she used stories from here,

However it was a very horrid forum with more ignorant posters than we get on here even when we get invaded, as nice posters tend outnumber them here thankfully,
Therefore I soon removed myself.

28 years wish could edit these posts ?

Starlady I doubt it and I really Cant think of one reason that our daughter. Pull come up with to justify her cruel relentless heartless behaviour towards her own mum who would have layed Down her life for her, and furthermore I spend 28 heads giving her total emotional and financial support.

More fool me really because when I was tearing my hair out dh working full time and and struggling to cope with menopause, and my beloved f i law with dementia and coping with all his finances and care my daughter said quite proudly sorry I can help I have the baby to think of.
Wow that told me.
And true to her word she never visited her grandad, or gave me the slightest support even on Day of funeral I found out from myndear sons partner at that time she was bad mouthing me.

It was wake up call but I took a very long while to realise how hard and cruel she had become.

Apology accepted, Yoga. We all have a bad day/morning, etc. now and then.

Nina, I sometimes wonder about that, too. What happens if those who have co their parents find their kids do the same to them when they're grown? They may think, "Well, I won't do the same things my parents did." But their (future) ac may co them for other reasons, ones they would never have thought of doing it for. It's said that parents teach more by example than anything else, so I wonder, do these people ever think about that?