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how can I make Rhinestone's Coleman reports big enough to read. I'm on a lap top so can't do that finger thingy where you can stretch something out to make it bigger. Oh dear, not sure this post makes much sense either.
Hers is the amends letter one with suggestions as what to say.
Thought I would post with that Dr. Coleman wrote about whether to continue to try or not .
That's the real tragedy isn't it eddie. Mr. S. has a large family and our GC are being denied great aunts and uncles, aunts and uncles, cousins, second cousins, 2 GGM's; the list goes on and on.
Mr. S. and I aren't just
for ourselves, we're sad for our mothers. My m.i.l. has a ton of GC and GGC but still misses our ES and his children. My poor mum now only has one GS and no GGC at all.
We don't just have our own pain to deal with, we have the pain of our husbands, our other child(ren) who even if they retain contact, have seen their family torn apart and the distress of their parents. I'm not saying our ES doesn't have his own pain to contend with but DS says on the rare occasions they have talked about it, because his brother never wants too, all he sees is his
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So yes, we come together on this thread; sometimes to vent our anger, sometimes to share our pain and as recent posts about perfume and aftershave testify too, sometimes just to have a chat and raise a
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Thank you Celebgran, Smileless & Fairydoll 
Yogagirl.
You poor thing Celeb, as you've said 'haven't you been through enough'; yes you have and more than your fair share IMO. Keeping everything crossed for you that your appointment on Friday goes well. Good news about little Rosie.
You mean they used to make it as soap as well eddie
I had no idea and to think I've only just found out now they're not making it anymore[anger]. 
we have the same taste in shoes AND men's aftershave. Just told Mr. S. about the soap but I don't think he was too bothered; he likes Farenheit but I think he wears it because I like it sooo much and of course I'm the one who buys it for him.
Some interesting points Starlady but I think it's rather disingenuous to only be able to visit GP's who live jut 26 miles away only 3 or 4 times a year when he was quite happy to make regular trips to their property; looks more like a sense of entitlement to me.
Seems to me that some AC have far more expectations than they're entitled too and we're not permitted to have any at all.
Chewy Kiku do you remember the trendy yellow packaging and bottles?
And dancing close when young, especially in the summer, to sweaty young men with a mixture of Brut and sweat. Lovely stuff.
celebgran I had 4 grandparents who were alive and me and my siblings all had great love and input into our lives well into young adulthood and more - as did all our cousins on both sides,to our lives. I only lost my last grandmother 10 years ago. I read the eulogy at her funeral.
This modern idea that grandparents aren't 'family' is nonsense I think, the more love a child has, the more a child thrives. I made sure even after divorce that my DS saw his paternal grandma spoke to her on the phone and visited. It would have been cruel not to.
I wonder if anyone is doing research into the impact of grandparents on grandchildren? Proof is needed. 
How very sad Fairydoll I too never met my paternal grandparents. My GM died just before my elder sister was born, and as she had 3 boys and no daughters, she would have loved us. My dad's dad was apparently chased off by my dad, after he attacked dad's mum [his wife,my GM]he chased him down the street with a rifle kept from his war days! How true that is though, I don't know
I too grieved for my GDad, as he was alone, living on Isle of Sheppey, when my mum spotted him in a shop in Southend and said to my dad "that's your dad isn't it?" So they were reconciled, must have been 40yrs later! He died shortly afterwards, got knocked down, so I never got to meet him, as I was living in Africa at the time.
I do 'Healing breathing' in my yoga classes and I always think of my granddad John, as it turned out he was a healer and a member of a spiritualist church. My dad couldn't believe this of his dad, but I wonder if it was the estrangement that led him down this path, being cut off from his 3 sons & never getting to meet his GC. Of course in those days there were no internet, mobiles or anything like that, so if you lost touch with your family, that was it! Funny how my mum spotted him just before he died, after all those years apart!
I save some of this GN posting, mostly mine, but sometimes, like this one of yours Fairydoll[hope you don't mind] showing the sorrow & destruction estrangement brings. It's only saved in my GC memory boxes, so that one day, not only will they get to know how much I loved & missed them, but also their family history on their mums side, that she couldn't tell them. I also have a copy for myself, that I hope my ED gets to read one day and to then fully realise the enormity of what she has done to us; her mum, sister & her little girl, my precious GD [my GS has his dad & all his paternal family, so not as effected as my GD]
Needless to say why I hae not posted for a while, I have been read though and totally understand your post regarding being upset at not seeing as much of your Son as you'd hoped Smileless enough said.
Hope your check-up goes well today Celebgran and they find nothing they can't fix quickly for you.
Love to all the estranged posters on here
Also to those not estranged but come on here to give us some encouraging words of support and sometimes wise words to help us through our dark days, of which there are many!
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