yogagirl several people on here have already told you it would be unprofessional for a teacher to give out information about your GCs.
Your friend, a retired teacher, has told you the same.
So you're going to do it anyway and basically entrap the teacher into doing something that could be viewed as professional misconduct and breach of confidentiality.
Have you really no idea of how your behaviour is perceived by other people?
When Is News Not Really 'News'?
When a political leader lies on their CV - can you trust them?


how ever u will only upset yourself gleaning information this way.. I know from experience however tempting it is
that it seems v unlikely thing will change yet hero sine hope alive as life changes in a heartbeat.
Think I must though as he said she will be moving to another school soon, so I could ask her to find out how they are etc, but would have to tell the story!