Bullying

Diddy, he's not going to change at his age which means you have to either accept the situation or do something about it.
If it was me, I'd be glad that the cranky git had gone to bed. I'd then pour myself a huge glass of wine, find a comfy throw, and switch the TV back on.
Stand up to him Diddy. xx

What happens when he does actually "blow his top"?

And, in addition to the good advice offered by Bags get out of the house and away from him as much as possible during the day. Go shopping without him, meet up with a friend for a long drawn-out coffee, go for a swim or a walk. At home get out into the garden, go to another room and read a book. Tell him you're not hungry and just to grab a sandwich for himself.

Take back control in all these little ways.

Don't bother to ask him why he does what seem to you to be irrational (and mean) things, diddy, just wait for him to go to bed and carry on with your routine. If you show him his behaviour upsets you it will encourage him; if you just ignore it (while fuming inside) and do what you want when he's not there, then he isn't really controlling you, you are just adapting to his weird habits

If I remember correctly, you have written about him before. He is a control freak as you say.

I cant remember if you have relatives or friends in the country you are in at all?

I misunderstood, I thought you had to have the tv on to be able to watch your programmes on the pc (I am not a computer geek as you can tell) and that you missed the end of your programme because of that.

He sounds like a Victor Meldrew and lots of older men seem to be a bit grumpy like that. DH has a thing about not leaving appliances on standby - if I leave the tv on standby he always informs me the next morning that I did [!]. Apparently I left the ensuite light on all day the other day and how much did that cost? (12 pence for 16 hours I informed him, after I looked it up).

Are you are missing your family and would like some chats with them? Do you have any friends you can go out with for lunch/coffee etc?

Diddy1, Not sure if I've got this right but I gather you were watching a programme on your computer while your OH was watching something on the main TV. He then wanted to go to bed and turned the TV off because you were not watching it.

If you didn't want to go to bed but wanted to stay up and watch the TV why didn't you just switch it back on again?

Sorry if I'm missing the point

ps David poured his medication (pills) down the toilet and flushed them away in the last few seconds.
he shouldn't have done that, as a nurse he knows he should return them to the pharmacy!

Oh dear Diddy, I don't think I have any advice to offer only some sympathy which you said you don't want.
If he's always been like this I don't think you will change him; if he has got like it recently could it be the start of dementia? How old is he?
You are not being childish, he is.

I would have put my foot down with him very firmly well before now, perhaps you have been too kind and accommodating.

Perhaps he'll be in a better mood tomorrow and will listen to reason. What will he say if you tell him you're not going to put up with his behaviour? Whose house is it? Who does the looking after ie the cooking, washing etc. What would he do if you went on strike and said you were jolly well going to watch telly all day?

Good luck.