New partner in later life

James so pleased for you, its never too late to tey something new,

James I thought that courtship in the 1950s was very chaste?

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How life changes, for the better even in late life, my wife and I celebrated our diamond wedding two years ago and we whilst have had our upland downs over the years we have had a steady relationship. Then 1it deepened even more for 4 months ago we booked a 28 day cruise, staying the night before the cruise in a hotel in Barcelona. After a good meal we went to our room and settled down for the night. however, neither of us could get to sleep. We therefore decided to watch a paid movie and for a good laugh chose a soft porn one. We were amazed what a good story it was and the explicit scenes were tasteful even though they got up to some hanky panky that we had never considered trying. We both enjoyed the scenes but said no more and simply had a good nights sleep. Nothing changed until about four days in to the cruise, when after a good meal, drinks and an excellent show we retired for the night.
My wife unusually for her, got rather amourous perhaps it was the drink, and suggested we try a few new moves from the movie, well like most males I was quite willing to try something new. That cruise became the best honeymoon ever for both of of us and we have not got off the roundabout since. I am telling you this because it was like a great awakening for us both and rekindled our love of over 60 years, never think you are too old to learn new tricks and of ways improve your relationship with one another. Today, we are going through our courtship of the 50's again and its fantastic for us both, long may we both live and love one another, age is no barrier to true love.

Libralady all I can say is as we mature everyone brings something of sadness and loss with them - it comes in many forms, but I think it likely that if you meet someone of a similar age, they will have had marriage, or divorce, or both in their history and maybe health challenges too ... If you are open and willing to meet that in someone else, then why should someone not be open and willing to meet that in you too? And to be honest - you want to meet someone who is understanding and that understanding will probably come from similar experiences. For very different reasons, my DH and I had both experienced traumatic loss in our lives. On the outside and in neither of us was whole ... To my mind, if it is meant to be , it will be. Never say never

I would love to meet a new partner. I am 68 and feel totally isolated for the first time in my life, after a busy life. Been divorced since 1994, then had a mastectomy in 2001. I am worried about how and when to tell a prospective partner about the breast cancer although I have been very well since the surgery and other than Tamoxifen for 5 years, did not require further treatment. I need to get my life going again but don't know where to start. My friends are all still married and don't come out socially very often. Any similar experiences anyone? I would welcome your advice.

Just realised that has travelled a long way away from the OP question! Sorry - not so sharp today for some reason LOL

I think we become more sure of ourselves - our needs and our wants - (social, emotional and physical), but that said, I am still amazed and joyful eight years in that I found love with someone. We are now a 'blended' family with 5 grown up children between us and one DGS on my side. It has suited me to remarry - 3 years ago after a very long engagement and living together just to make sure! I think life feels all the more enriched because we both had a lot of unhappiness, yet here we are .

I think we become less inhibited in a way, even though we are not as good looking as when we are young,
I do look in the mirror sometimes and find every fault, but i dont think he must see what i see lol

I think we get better with age ...

Lol, i know what you are referring to ,i have read the thread

Oh Ana Check out 'discussions of the day' ...

Sharper...?

Just come across this thread and as someone who met DH2 8 years ago ...married 3 years ago ... I am joyful for you.

Love can be lovelier and all that. Took a while for us to let the barriers down, but very happy.

Just wondering, given current hot forum topics ...anyone moticed valeriej getting sharper with her posting ... ?

(hope you don't mind the cheeky tease)

Liz46 thank you, there are some problems due to his meds,we think, or maybe because of the prostrate problem, but not all the time,hoping we can resolve them when he next goes for a checkup, but in general, we are having a lovely time

That's lovely Valerie. I am pleased for you.

Update all going well, had a few days together,
Had a lovely time,
No awkwardness ,so relaxed withn each other, sex great
I particularly love how affectionate he is, not had much actual affection in my marriages,
Love being with him, even just going for a walk,

Lol, Misadventure,i feel so comfortable with him, im not worried at all now, in fact looking forward to being with him, in all ways,
Anticipation,and imagination is good, bring it on,lol,

I expect you may now have overcome your slightly embarrassed feelings about going away, and what it may entail, now, Valerie?
Grab it with both hands - metaphorically speaking, of course.

Thank you all again, things are looking up, he has never actually said before that he loved me,, but it was unspoken,he is quite shy, but today said "i love you so much.you make me very happy"
I didnt spend a lot of time at the hospital, as his 2 daughters were up here, both live hundreds of miles away, so i wanted to give them a chance to spend time with their dad as he was very ill
Next week he goes for his check up,and then we are going to spend a few days somewhere together, cant wait

Ah, its heartwarming to read how happy you both are to have found eachother. Best wishes to you both, and hopefully for a long and fulfilled life together. X

Another update;all is getting back on track now, its lovely to be called wonderful and amazing at my age, he thanked me for being patient, why? of course i was, and understood he was ill, and still having blood tests and check ups
I think underneath he feels like me that its too good to be true at our age,
When you dont expect to meet someone at our age after a lot of years thinking it will never happen, its kind of a shock, but a nice one,and you cant believe its really happening
Seems a bit surreal in a way

valerie sounds like your new man has had a bit of a rough time with these infections, he must feel good to know you are there and Im sure once he is feeling a little better,you will both look forward to many little trips away.. as OP have said keep us updated. take care.