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HELP... am I over-reacting?

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MawBroon Thu 20-Apr-17 07:19:42

He may of course be the victim of the usual type of online romantic scam, in which case, be doubly sure your assets are protected.
Legal advice is essential.

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Purpledaffodil Thu 20-Apr-17 07:04:33

I endorse the advice given above. I know shared history going over 40 years is a powerful incentive to stay together, as are financial implications. However your trust has gone and things will never be the same again. He is treating you so badly on many levels. You are certainly not overreacting. flowers

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absent Thu 20-Apr-17 06:49:37

Shit! No, you are not being unreasonable. If he loves you, then he should have some idea of how this is hurting and confusing you. Unless you want to share his affection, if that really exists, then get out. In my opinion, losing him will ultimately be less painful than "keeping" him". Or, if you really want to deal with this, let him know that you have found a [younger] lover but "you will always come back to him". Sauce for the goose…

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MawBroon Thu 20-Apr-17 06:40:57

Is it possible to over react in this situation?

See a good divorce lawyer PDQ (and check any joint assets have not been cleaned out)

Do it now.

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Kiwichick Thu 20-Apr-17 03:53:05

I discovered in February 2016 that my DH of 40 years was in love, nay adores, another woman. He met her online on WeChat she is 38 (the same age as our eldest son), divorced with an 11 year old child. He tells me he is her confidante she can tell him things she can never tell anyone else, that she has never known tenderness until he gave her a hug the first time they met, that it is a very close friendship. Alll he wants is to bring a little bit of hope and tenderness into her life. He has visited her when he has been to China on business and he has told me that he has shared a bed with her and made love to her. Her child must have seen them in bed because he told his mother that DH is married and if she sleeps with him she is a bad woman. I have asked him to give her up and he refuses to, he has promised her that he won't leave her but is sure that eventually she will leave him. From the correspondence I have seen from her the day that happens hell will freeze over ?
He says she only gets to see him a couple of times a year and he always comes home to me. I feel that I don't know him anymore. He tells me he loves me but how can I trust a word he says he has lied to me so many times. Am I over-reacting to the situation? I am so scared of losing him but I am an emotional trainwreck. What would you do?

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