does anyone else get so, so angry with their OH, but then the anger disappears?

I'm sure lots of us have, fleetingly, thought 'thats it - I've had enough' though possibly not about a cup of coffee. But, it doesn't take a huge leap to see that what Maw says is true and do a quick rethink.

I went out for lunch with 2 friends last week who were both worried about the health of their husbands so I count my blessings.

to all the people mentioned in Maw's post and to Maw and merlot and to anyone else who is 'coping' with their husbands.

Just teach him to use the coffee machine.... its not difficult.

Maisie.

Hes a man What more do you expect.

Sounds normal to me, and better than many.

"The other man's woman's grass is always greener"
I'd say your's is pretty lush masiegreen

I am really, really lucky.
DH cooked himself a bacon sandwich at lunch-time because my friend called and we were sitting in the garden drinking tea (which I made).

However, he has left the hob and the tiles all splattered with fat.

willsmadnan

I remember a thread a while back which escalated from "he sits around the house doing nothing now he's retired" to " mental cruelty and unreasonable behaviour should I LTB?" in about as many seconds.

You are 'avin a larf I hope?
Only to those who have lost husbands last month or 20 years ago, or may be losing them by degrees through Alzheimer's, it's not funny is it?

Why not keep the husband and get rid of the nespresso machine?

You could, of course move out and take the nespresso machine with you if you feel that strongly about coffee.

You want to 'cut and run' because he can't operate the espresso machine? My DH never figured out how to open the washing machine. He died in the blink of an eye last year and I would make him a hundred cups of tea or coffee every day just to have him back again. You could try counting your blessings or contemplate cooking for one for the rest of your life with no one to say 'That was smashing, love'. If you do 'cut and run', you'll find it's not the paradise you obviously think it will be.

DH moaned the other day that I had obviously forgotten how to make a cup of tea
He likes his coffee and tea at exactly the same time each day and if I am engrossed on Gransnet doing some housework he has to give in and make his own and mine too .

What merlotgran said is food for thought.

You have to make your own coffee and he's generally very loving but lets slip sometimes ... and you're asking 'is it a sign that I should cut and run?'

I think you're taking the piss and want people to tell you how lucky your are.

It would never cross his mind to actually DO something thoughtful like I do for him. He can't even be arsed to work out how to make a cappuchinno for me in our nespresso machine, so, if I want a coffee, I make it myself

How many people (women) nodding??
Come off it, there's a hell of a lot worse out there!
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Men

Cut and run? Because of a few minor thoughtless actions?

This time last week I was sitting with DD2 at the Queen Alexandra hospital in Portsmouth waiting for DH to come out of emergency surgery to fit a pacemaker. He had collapsed with heart block that morning while sitting at their kitchen table.

Three hours in resuss watching a team of people trying to regulate his heartbeat knowing that he'd already had two ventricular standstills were the scariest moments of my life.

Thanks to the skill and dedication of some truly wonderful people he is now back to his curmudgeonly, sometimes thoughtless self whom I often get quite angry with and then forgive in a heartbeat.

Do think on, maisiegreen There's more to life than a cup of Nespresso.

I would say pretty normal maisie although all marriages are different.Some men are very thoughtful, others not so much.Some men will do household chores unasked, others will do them, only when asked.Don't be afraid of asking.
Some men will do little romantic gestures, others rarely, but that doesn't mean a lack of love.
As we get older men can easily fall into a selfish routine, so the thing is to work out what you would like your DH to do, and say to him 'I would really like you to do blah blah' rather than say 'You never do blah blah' because chances are he will be happily unaware that anything is wrong!

minus !!

Not going to change after 40 years ! Seems to have more plus than minors!!!