I love him, BUT

Each time I think like this I try to reverse the thought into what were my 'buts' in his mind. Chastening indeed! Never a one way street even though we ladies are pretty much perfect.

My DH does all of the above! And after nearly 43 years I still haven't given up hope!

Mrs Mopp and others - I got over the remote control issue by buying a 2nd one. We have one each now. If he comes in and switches my programme over so he can see the football scores etc., I can turn it back to my station as soon as he has seen his team.
My pet hate - he follows me around switching off the TV or the light if I am out of a room for a few minutes at the loo or answering the phone.

I am here again, my control freak DH in more ways than one, watches TV every evening from 6pm until around 10 pm, never asks what I would like to see,so I have just solved the problem by buying the rights to direct streaming from the UK onto my computer, now I can see all the lovely British TV programmes, when I want to, he can watch his Swedish rubbish, and sleep if he wants to! Its worth every penny.

My DH, on being asked why he was reorganising the kitchen cupboards, fridge etc, replied that he wasn't, he was ORGANISING them. I too just let him get on with it; he does have some good ideas! Smile

Sorry Chewbacca I laughed out loud at yours but totally sympathise! Mine: moaning about everyone on BGT to try to stop me watching it. Leaving his hat/cap everywhere - and his teeth. Asking where we've seen the actor before in a thrilling drama, and when I try to ignore it, will then try to guess aloud. Taking the wrong lane EVERY time on roundabouts - surely by the law of averages, he should get it right once.

Its the control here, the same as many sufferers control in hand and asleep, MUST see this programme, asleep?!When woken "on no I wasnt asleep" getting my camera ready for next time!
Other things to irritate, well there isnt enough space to itemise them!

I have control of the remote in our house. He says he has no interest in tv, but he watches what I put on. He never quite finishes a job. Last night he cleaned the kitchen worktops but fired the cloth towards the laundry basket. Wouldn't dream of putting it in the basket. Leaves banana skins on the table, cleaned the bathroom window with my face cloth, wipes his finger through a dusty surface, but will not dust it! You get the picture, but he's mine and I love him.

Yes, they are all good men, which is why we still love them (after 50 years in my case) so none of these are harsh criticisms but meant affectionately and with humour and tolerance. Dear God, we shall desperately miss them when they have gone.
I have no idea how to even work the remote....

I love him but he's a heavy smoker and the house stinks despite my best efforts.

Oh good grief - where to begin

1. he is very good at loading and unloading the dishwasher. BUT, when he empties it, any plastic tubs (used for saving leftovers or freezing stuff) he just puts them in the draining rack above the dishwasher. WHY oh WHY can't he put them in the proper cupboard for them?

2. Takes his shoes/boots/slippers off and just leaves them in the middle of the room. He has to walk PAST the shoe cabinet when he goes out, so could easily put them away. But no. Off the feet and left on the floor. I warned him I would be disposing of them if he couldn't put them away. He carried on. He still hasn't found his slippers - but he does put his shoes away now. For the time being, anyway.

3. Puts a milk bottle back in the fridge with the teeniest tiniest dribble of milk left in it. Not QUITE empty, but not enough left in the bottle to be useful.

4. NEVER EVER EVER pushes his chair back under the table when we finish eating. No matter where we are - home, mother in law's house, restaurant.

5. Insists on asking me if he's "allowed" to buy something. Oh my days WHY??? I would never tell him he's not "allowed". I'm not the banker!!

All the above said, he's a good man, and we are coming up to our 32nd wedding anniversary, so I guess we rub along ok, minor irritations excepted

I am not sure I would like to see his list of "I love her, but . . . "

Mine annoys me when watching films : he'll say ' you cAn see that rain is just artifical ; the sun is shining behind it or when watching a tv drama 'that sequence was filmed ; you can tell because the car wheels are turning backwards'

I wonder what our husbands would like to say about us!

Oh Mrs Mopp, I have Wurzel here too! He wears odd wellies, not even the same brand & colour, to his jobs as a gardener! It's so shaming & I swear he does it on purpose to annoy me. He hasn't had his hair cut since February & looks worse than Chris off Eggheads! I will have to tie him to a chair & get the clippers out as we're going away next week. And yes, he hogs the remote & switches over just when something exciting is about to happen & he clips his fingernails into the kitchen sink...

On the other hand, he's very tidy, open one of his drawers or cupboards - neat as a new pin. Even his workshop! Open one of my cupboards or drawers at your peril. Tidy house, untidy mind!

Mine leaves his garden shoes on the May by the back door . I have to bend down to pick them up when I clean the floor morning and evening. Tried throwing them in the middle of the breakfast room , but doesn't get it. Now he takes his boots off . Leaves them on the floor when the show rack is a yard away !!!
Says he will clear the dinner plates but never wipes the work tops or job or rinse the sink!!! Leaves his Apple core on the table. Every night and his tooth pick!!My I didn't realise there was so much. Perhaps venting this will ease my frustration!!!!??
Meant the hob !!

FIL always insisted on saying, "Shhh - I'm watching that" generally over the 6 o'clock TV news, which drove DH and MIL completely mad. These days DH does the same, and when I dare to point out that he's becoming increasingly like his father, he gets really miffed - "I'm nothing like him". I adore him, but why can't our menfolk recognise the truth? One of these days he's going to be chucked out of an upstairs window! Yes - he hates other drivers, TV presenters and most other people too.

I had one of those - note the past tense. He'd always leave his socks on the floor etc. but most annoyingly he'd pile the dirty washing up in the sink, and then I'd had to take it all out again to do it. (No, he never did it, and we never had a dishwasher.)

Go watch your own TV....simples. What you are going watch is something you should discuss. Nobody has the right to choose for the other person. Even better...hide the remote and go watch your own tv.

Having read all this I can't believe what some of you put up with. Why the hell do you not say something.

So glad I live on my own. Peace reigns in The Oddbird's cowshed

Packets! Freakin packets. He will pull out the packets of biscuits and chips while trying to watch a movie... Now when I hear him head to the cupboard, I tell him to remove the snacks from their packaging before he brings it through ? One reason I won't ever do movie houses with him ever again!

Sorry, that was a reply to rosesarered.Is Grampie a man? I am the remote control operator here as my husband doesn't know which controls what.

I am expected to man our three remotes to:

...to setup our DVR to record our favorite programs.
...to fast-forward through the ads.
...adjust the sound.
...update our Freesat box.

Yes, I am also accused of hogging the remote controls.

And I accept the blame for all recording and other TV malfunctions.

BTW, apart from the last one, these are not necessarily "boy jobs".

No they don't!

My DH died a few months ago. He did a fair few things that irritated me but I would have all the irritation and more back if I could have him back.

Leaves his clothes all over bedroom floor & doesn't open his post until I nag! Then he leaves the empty envelopes on the sofa!!!
Also leaves front door open when he comes home from work until he jas taken his coat & shoes off.