I love him, BUT

Why the hell can't he put his clothes for washing in the basket !!

He leaves them on the floor (including the odd item that he intends to wear again, such as jeans) then moans because they are covered in cat hair! Grrrrr.

I've been married 35 years.

Yes i thought so wait untill its 35 ha ha

He's untidy but won't admit it but instead gets defensive, leaves drawers open all over the house, starts jobs he doesn't finish and walks away leaving me to clear up, is terrible at DIY, is sadly vulnerable and ultra modest and will never tell people the wonderful things he has done in his life, he is silent in groups leaving me to do all the socializing, he never buys himself anything or me, he would live happily in the middle of the field in a t-shirt and old clothes, existing on marmite sandwiches and tea! Talk about non materialistic .

But, he is tolerant, kind, supportive, his loves his daughters to bits and me and he has a heart of gold (he puts up with me apart from anything else!).

We've been married for 5 years.

Campire queen all i can aay is yoy must be newly married then

I love him but he puts his hesd in the sand and ignores any probelns hoping they will go away on there own.
And he never puts anything away after he has use of it .He never tidez uo after himself .If he is about to start decorating he never prepares the roon properly

Ah well, now my DM did wait on my DF, but then she never went out to work after they married, so she considered running around after him and the children her role.
My PiL, on the other hand, both worked and they shared household chores equally, just as we did.
My DH had an aunt and uncle who we stayed with on holiday many many years ago (they lived in a beautiful coastal town). In the mornings, Uncle would sit at the kitchen table having breakfast while Aunt fussed about, washing up, tidying etc. When he wanted a refill of his breakfast cup (the teapot and milk jug were inches away from his cup on the table) he would push his cup towards his DW and say "another cup please dear". She would then pick up the tea-towel, dry her hands and walk over to pour it out for him . Oh well, I suppose at least he did say please and call her 'dear'....

Indinana, scrolled back to find the origins of your quote. I read janeayressister's description of her DC's 'modern' marriage. It exactly describes mine, married 1968 and my parents (married 1942). The idea of waiting on men as though they were some sort of deity never entered either mine or DM's minds. We both had/have marriages of equals and my DF was a good short order cook and quite prepared to push prams, change nappies and hoover when necessary.

Like my children, I worked and had a professional career as well as my husband. My DM worked, but DF was in the forces so we moved a lot, so, admittedly, she had little chance to build a career.

We are of a generation that waited on Men as though they were some sort of deity. Goodness, I've never done that

My sons in laws don't get food on the table as soon as they come in from work. Neither did my DH! We both worked full time and shared tasks equally - I was just as likely to get in from work to find my DH preparing dinner for the family.

And no, we're not 'young' grans - I'm late 60s and DH is early 70s. The way of life you describe, janeayressister is more reminiscent of my parents' lifestyle than ours.

Well, Christinefrance, the title of the thread is I love him But, so in every post it's clear that we all love our DHs. I'm amazed the number of times we all have the same 'buts' and the TV remote is a classic example.
Nobody has posted anything nasty or spiteful; and our love for these men has never been in doubt.

Just thought I would redress the balance a little. My husband drives me mad sometimes but he is - kind, tolerant.puts up with my irritable moods, generous and is always there to help friends when needed. He is a good cook too.

All of these things remind me why being single is the best thing for me ?

Deeana1...I laughed out loud at yours!

Discards the foils or corks from wine bottles in any receptacle lying around e.g. vases; goes out in a short sleeved shirt and padded jerkin in winter and thinks he looks normal; and he just gave me a small knife with a large fork, the imbalance of which spoiled my meal

I think we are all so annoying that we shouldn't live together at all.
We should live in cells & meet now & again for lunch & sex!

They would say we're wonderful, understanding partners and they don't deserve such paragons of beauty and grace.

Wonder what the o.hs would say about us?

Mine wont stop tidying up. If I leave the paper with my half done crossword on the table its in the recycling in a nano-second. Pop an empty packet on the hall table to remind me to buy something and its in the bin. Leave half a cup of tea to have later and its tipped away and the cup is in the dishwasher. Put some clothes out to remind me to iron them and they are back in the drawers in a minute. Extends to putting the gardening tools back in the shed when I just got them out to start work! Grrrr.

He wants a coffee. Just one cup.
So why oh why does he fill the kettle to the brim??
Just habit, is the explanation. Grrrrrrrr

One thing that drives me insane about my DH is that if he's in the kitchen which is next door to the livingroom, and I call him to say something, he comes out of the kitchen and stands in the hall, he won't come into the livingroom to hear what I have to say, he'll just stand in the hall between the 2 rooms, so I find myself talking to him through a door.. weird!

Perhaps it's because we don't live together (never have, probably never will) even after seven years of marriage (fourteen years together) I can't think of anything he does which annoys me...
Oh yes, he used to try to tell me where to park in the car park. We settled that by having the rule that whoever was driving chose the parking space with no comment from the other unless there was a really good reason.
We seldom watch TV together - if we do it's at my house as he hasn't got one! - but the remote is mine if we do; I pack the dishwasher - again he hasn't got one; otherwise we just rub along.
He has several endearing habits though for which I love him all the more!

LewLew......... Terrific. Thank you.

Used to have the same problem . Better than him not being there at all - lost my DH 8 and a half years ago. It IS very very annoying though!

He puts football, which I hate, and then falls asleep. Never rolls dirty socks together and then complains when I can only find one to wash. However I broke my wrist a couple of weeks ago and he has looked after me really well. I am on a diet and he is being really supportive, so nuff said, I think.