Forgiveness

I can forgive but often have to work at it if I have been badly hurt.

I'm very unforgiving Must try harder

I don't dwell on things either really, but we were badly scammed a few years ago and I despise the businessman who did it. Having said that, he did us a favour as we stuck to the path we were on and are much better off, emotionally and financially, than we would have been.

I don't believe in forgiving. I think it's up to the perpetrator to forgive themselves. I can continue with a relationship if the offence isn't too bad. I don't dwell on things and am able to move on pretty easily.

We kept going our business is still here still successful ,he didn't even stop us working for one single day ,its not our way and that must have made him mad ...maybe thats why he started the calls.I'll never know as I could never bring myself to speak to him .Sadly other "friends" decided to support him as his business was on a sticky wicket...so basically it was jealousy that motivated him .I wish I could forgive him ,I'm sure I would like myself more if I did,but my daughter was only 7 then and she was a stick insect with worry ,not that we told her stuff just she saw what was happening to us ...so no ,forgiveness is out of the question

Wow! That's an awful thing to have happened, paddyann! He sounds very disturbed..

I can forgive quite easily but have a problem with betrayal of trust if the betrayer cannot admit they have betrayed,

Yes,* Paddyann* , how terrible for you, especially as you had no justice.

My God paddyann thats awful. Astounding that this person got away with it!

I forgive very easily except in one instance ,32 years ago we were the victims of an arson attack,bad enough as our business was burnt literally to the ground with massive finacial losses as we had just had tens of thousands of ound of new machinery delivered ...a day early and so it wasn't covered by insurance.The arsonist then called us day and night threatening to do the same to our home .I had my suspitions about who it was but the police in all their wisdom said no proof so theres nothing we can do.Eventually after a year of the calls which left us nervous wrecks they installed a device to record them ...the calls stopped instanly which pointed to the fact that the person knew us well and what was going on.So he was interviewed ,confessed and was sent for psycological assesment.He walked free .I didn't set eyes on him again for 32 years ...saw him at a book launch this year ..and I had to leave .I can never forgive him for what he put us through and I will never forget ,I'm not proud of that as its against everything I believe in .Just seeing him made my blood boil.And yes he was someone we had considered to be a friend .

It's supposed to be good for the soul, to forgive, but I'm quite happy to cut someone out completely.

I had a friend (so I thought) who stole from me and also from a group we were both involved with. It was proven to be her and that others had had cash go missing - as had a uniformed organisation. I've never spoken to her since.